Friday, 21 December 2012

TRAFFICKING; IT CANT HAPPEN TO ME





We go about our lives assured everything is alright, everyone is as they seem and no one would possibly want to harm us. Why would they want to harm us? After all, we are good people.

Indeed, that is the way the world should be but it is not quite so. There people out there ready to plunder others for self- benefit. Awareness on key issues is principal in keeping yourself safe as well as those you love therefore let us examine the people and motives and results of modern day slavery called Human Trafficking.



There is a broad aspect when it comes to describing Human Trafficking. Simply put it is illegal trade in which humans are made to do inhumane work or work conditions for the benefit of illegal perpetrators. This description could fall short of many aspects of trafficking. The United Nations puts it this way;


(a) 'Trafficking in persons' shall mean the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harboring or receipt of persons, by means of the threat or use of force or other forms of coercion, of abduction, of fraud, of deception, of the abuse of power or of a position of vulnerability or of the giving or receiving of payments or benefits to achieve the consent of a person having control over another person, for the purpose of exploitation. Exploitation shall include, at a minimum, the exploitation of the prostitution of others or other forms of sexual exploitation, forced labor or services, slavery or practices similar to slavery, servitude or the removal of organs;
(b) The consent of a victim of trafficking in persons to the intended exploitation set forth in subparagraph (a) of this article shall be irrelevant where any of the means set forth in subparagraph (a) have been used;
(c) The recruitment, transportation, transfer, harboring or receipt of a child for the purpose of exploitation shall be considered 'trafficking in persons' even if this does not involve any of the means set forth in subparagraph (a) of this article;
(d) 'Child' shall mean any person under eighteen years of age"

Information from Salvation Army Website.




  • Plunderers, anyone who plunders another for cheap or free labor is a plunderer regardless of whether the labor comes from a relative or someone they claim to help, as long as the terms fit the description above.
  • Some Companies, for example,commercial agricultural i.e the cotton used to make your shirt could have been picked up by a trafficked person, some traffickers pose as modelling agencies offering opportunities abroad, entertainment massage parlors .
  • Anybody can be a human trafficker but not everybody is a human trafficker. Learn to identify them;



No, they do not have to an eye-patch over their eyes. You cannot tell by looking. From the view of many different victims of trafficking, the person who made them victims promised them a good life, wore clean clothes and had a smile on their face. So how do you identify a trafficker from everyone else?

  • VALIDATE ALL YOUR JOB OFFERS. Many traffickers appear to be having good intentions for you and look like they want to make your life better with their promises of work. Sometimes it is hard to tell by looking but always do background research on what they promise and do not take anyone by their word.
  • GET RICH FAST SCHEMES. If you cannot trace where there success is from but they look successful and offer you the same success be wary. If what they promise is true, are they able to show you the life of someone they had helped or worked with in the long run. They may well be able to but do more research and ask around anonymously even search for details on internet if you must but remember these people are skilled in their illegal trade.
  • STRANGERS WITH A KEEN INTEREST ON WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR LIFESTYLE. MAY EVEN OFFER FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE AT FIRST. They appear to have a genuine interest in your life, how much you make, where you live, your relationship with your family, your education and well being and your needs. Even though they may not know you but offer you the much needed assistance. Is the person well known in your area? If you go with them or according to their plan and something happens to you, will they be able to hold this person accountable for you? Traffickers disguise themselves in many forms so you should make sure that you are confident with this person, never take a person by what they say.
  • TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. You cannot know who is a trafficker at first sight but do not follow anyone you feel is not trustworthy even if they promise you what you most desire for they come in many manners and shapes, female or male, young or old. Do not be a victim;





Anyone can be a victim of trafficking but traffickers usually target specific people;

  • Migrant workers
  • People with little foreign language efficiency which makes it hard for them to communicate in countries they are trafficked to.
  • Young children from poor backgrounds.
  • Immigrants.
  • People with limited education.
  • People with cultural barrier.
  • People who are unaware of their Human Rights.




You cannot blame a person for being trafficked. Lack of adequate means to identify traffickers because they are so well synced with the society has allowed for trafficking to go on behind closed doors even into the 21st century. People are trafficked for all the bad reasons some of the few are;

  • Sexual Exploitation
  • Forced cheap labor
  • Slavery
  • Removal of Organs



  • Firstly, you have to learn how to identify trafficking victims.
  • Join a Voluntary Organisation  in your area and report that is involved in trafficking and report what you know.
  • It is not advisable to take matters into your own hands as this may put you in danger, rather work with the law enforcement or with the Organisation in your area to set the captives free.
  • If their is no Organisation in your area, seek help on behalf of the victim from International Organisations such as Human Trafficking.Org and Trafficking Project.Org.
  • If you know someone has traveled for work but you have barely heard from them, contact the ICRC with the help of the National Red Cross can help you locate your loved one.



Do you know anyone who has been trafficked or do you want to fight against this modern day slavery. Or do you know something not added to this article that you would like to add. Feel free to comment or contact us; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

This is am I AM SAFE Project by Safety First for Girls.

Sunday, 16 December 2012

MOTHERS SHOULD DISCUSS SEXUALITY WITH DAUGHTERS

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Mothers are a key female figure in the life of most girls. This also refers to the women who may not be a biological parent but play a key role in the life of a young girl; this could be a grandmother, aunt, teacher, stepmother, family friend, or just any responsible adult woman, maybe even a big female celebrity.

Young girls mirror who they see around them, so it should be no surprise if they behave just like the female adults they're influenced by.

But how exactly do mothers influence their daughters?

The above list just proves how a mother impacts their daughters life in the short and long term. However, is it a mothers responsibility to talk to her daughter about sex, and more, should mothers teach daughters to enjoy sex? 

The simple answer: YES.

A recent study claims mothers have a big influence over daughters views of sexuality. There are many reasons for this, some of which are:

However, some mothers are afraid to openly discuss sexual health and safety with their daughters for various reasons such as cultural taboo's or embarrassment among other reasons and so just keep quiet about it, never ever bringing up the issue.

When a sex scene comes on TV, everyone in the family feels uncomfortable and tries to be keep 'busy' until it's over. This should not be the case.

Not discussing sexuality can lead to a great dent in a mother-daughter relationship because the more the daughter keeps her sexuality a secret, consequently the mother will start to play guessing games just to know and this would only be because a platform was never raised for mutual discussion.

Not talking about sex to your daughter at the right time will mean the job will be handed over to another person, an aunt who may not share the same views as you, a peer who is also uneducated on sexuality or even worse, it is left to the media to educate your child. What will you choose?

How to talk to your daughter about sex.

  • Be open
  • Do not be judgmental
  • Be honest
  • Do it creatively e.g watching a fun ed video together
  • Follow up
  • Do not intimidate and allow a serene environment for your daughter to share her feelings
  • Make it part of a normal conversation instead of having one big nerve-wrecking talk.



Did your mother ever teach you about sex? Let us know.


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Wednesday, 12 December 2012

SEXUAL RIGHTS

These are the outcome conclusion of the International Conference on Population and Development beyond 2014 that took place in Bali Indonesia on 3 - 6th December 2012.

The outcome encouraged the government to;


  • Protect young peoples rights as Human Rights.
  • To stop violence against women.
  • To stop gender based violence.
  • To stop bad traditional practices.
  • Access to family planning.
  • Encourage safe and legal abortion.

Read the clip unedited version on sexual below according to the ICPD Outcome statement with the full version that includes many other outcomes available on the Global Youth Forum;


Sexual rights

Governments must fund and develop, in equal partnership with young people and health care providers, policies, laws, and programs that recognize, promote, and protect young peoples’ sexual rights as human rights. This must be developed in accordance with the principles of human rights, non-discrimination, respect, equality and inclusivity, with a gendered, multicultural and secular approach.*

Governments, together with other stakeholders, should guarantee an environment free from all forms of harmful traditional practices and psychological, physical and sexual violence, including gender based violence; violence against women; bullying in the home, school, workplace and community; sexual coercion; and female genital mutilation, amongst others. Support must be provided for victims of violence including free counseling, services and legal redress.

Cultural and religious barriers such as parental and spousal consent, and early and forced marriages, should never prevent access to family planning, safe and legal abortion, and other reproductive health services – recognizing that young people have autonomy over their own bodies, pleasures, and desires.

* With reference to the WHO working definition of sexual rights, the Yogyakarta Principles, and Sexual Rights: an IPPF Declaration. 




Do you have any questions, comments, additions or criticisms, feel free to leave a comment or email us today;

safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

Saturday, 8 December 2012

8 Steps to Starting A New Life

Written by Kamesha Gordon


Life is a gift! The chance to pull fresh air into our lungs daily, feel the sun shining on our faces, meet new people, and pursue our goals, are undeniable blessings. But there are many circumstances that can cause us to view our lives, as curses! It is easy to fall into despair—easy to believe that our painful experiences or existence, are all that life has to offer.
Sometimes, our suffering is a product of being victimized by others. At other times, our trials are the result of our own poor decision making. Let’s be honest—it happens.  But either way, we are not bound to the life we lived in the past or even the life we live presently.
We can obtain a new life, as long as our hearts continue to beat! We can escape physical places of bondage, as well as prisons of the mind!  We can love our life, be proud of the work we do, and look toward the future with-- not only a hopeful heart-- but with an excited spirit!

The first step is believing—believing in yourself and your God given ability to not only survive-- but to thrive! Let’s talk about how! 

 1. MAKE PEACE
Make peace with everything and everyone that you can. Forgive those who have wronged you. Ask for the forgiveness of those who you have hurt. Whether or not they accept your apology is their decision, but you must extend it. Pay back any debts you can, or get on a payment plan with that individual. Think restitution, restoration, and recompense. And do your best to settle all matters. Accept the past and anything you endured or that others endured at your hands, during that time—and then, move on
Refuse to live in that mental space. You cannot change the past. 
Mentally replaying the ugliness of the past, steals your freedom and your future. Stop punishing yourself. When it is over, it is over.  
Also, make good decisions in the future. Be cautious and wise to avoid a repeat in trauma or dysfunction. Every day that you spend doing the correct things, will grant you greater peace about your past.

2. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

What does your new life look like? What type of character do you have during that life? What level of education do you have? How do spend your days? What do you do at night? Are you an avid reader? What type of friends and associates do you have? Do you help others? Do you feel safe? Are you doing well financially? Do you have a good reputation? Do you want to live somewhere other than where you live now? 
Ask all these questions of the new life, which is consequently the new you! Write down exactly what you want out of your new life. And then write down a plan to achieve each feature of your new life. What are the obstacles? How can they be overcome?  
Ask every pertinent question. Brainstorm. And then answer it. Think outside the box!

3. SET A TIMELINE
When do you want your new life to start? And what sign will assure you that a new life has begun? What will be your starting or changing point? 
Begin to set a series of dates to meet the goals that are the steps, to the new life. “Someday” ends up being “no day”. 
So make sure you have tangible goals and due dates for each element of the plan. That is also the only way to track your progress. 
And if there is someone you trust—tell them. That way, they can hold you accountable for making the necessary changes.


4. LEARN FROM OTHERS

Watch those around you. Begin to pay attention. What have others done to succeed in certain areas? What behavioral patterns do you see in those who fail to live a purposeful and thriving life? Learn from the victories and mistakes of others around you and abroad. 
Consider signing up for THE EXPERIENCE PROJECT and get acquainted with people facing similar situations to yours-- it is an extraordinary and encouraging community.


5. GATHER YOUR RESOURCES

Most challenges are financial and resource based. Begin to save, and gather your resources. Seek additional means to earn income. And be patient during this time. It may take longer than you like. Honestly, it may take years to get the funds to complete your plan. Don’t forget why it’s worth it—because your new life is waiting on you!


6. GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING UNCOMFORTABLE
Change is a challenge. You may be tempted to return to your old ways or habits when the pursuit of the new life becomes overwhelming, scary, and uncomfortable. Prepare yourself for difficulty and to be mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually stretched! It is similar to becoming physically fit. The running and weight lifting hurt, at first. They exhaust you and may discourage you from continuing. Push through it. You’ll learn to love it! Because you’ll know the discomfort means you’re getting closer and closer to your goal!

7. DREAM! DREAM! DREAM!
Dream-- in order to take the limits off! Dream to stir your creativity. Dream to visualize the places you can go and things you can do. Visualization is a powerful tool. Can you see yourself 5 years from now, exactly where you want to be? Or close to it? What about 10 years from now? Be daring and courageous and imaginative when you dream! Combine that with the correct actions and you cannot lose!


8. FIND WAYS TO STAY MOTIVATED
Read motivational quotes daily. Read books. Watch motivational speakers on YouTube. Never stop feeding yourself inspiration and encouragement. Yesterday’s meal won’t stop your body’s need for food today. Your dreams are the same way. They get faint daily, and therefore must be fed daily.  If you don’t pour knowledge and wisdom into this journey toward a new life, you’ll never have it. 


About Author


Kamesha Gordon is a Creative Non-Fiction Writer. She is a SAFIGIan writer and continuously volunteers in addition to her Freelance Creative Writing. View her profile here.









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Wednesday, 5 December 2012

What if Its a Relative?

How do we handle crime at the hands of a relative, someone we know so well, someone who we interact with and at some point even adored?

Regardless of whether the crime is commited to you or another family member or even a complete stranger. It is always highly disturbing to know that we know the criminal and he is within our borders.

The truth of the matter is, if we do not report any crime commited, whether by someone we know or someone we do not know we increase the chance of that crime being commited again on another person and therefore take sides with the criminal even though we may be victims ourselves.

That we know the criminal personal puts us in a confusing situation of whether to tell or not to tell. Before we decide either, we should consider the consequences of both.


  1. If we tell, the criminal we know will be arrested and we shall probably not be seeing them as often as we could have possible wanted. And we shall also be held accountable as the "goody goody" that spelt all the secrets making it possible for that relative to hate us or even threaten us. 
  2. If we do not tell, the crime will possibly repeat itself and on new victims. And in future should it be discovered that you knew and were helping cover up the crime, that is a whole new scenario with you also possibly facing jail time!

What a conflict withing yourself but remember that reporting a crime whether done by someone we know or not we are helping to clean up society and also helping the one who commited the crime to a better life or even to help.

Before reporting be sure that you have made up your mind and you have enough supporting evidence in order that justice prevails.

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Thursday, 29 November 2012

FEMINISM; A TWO SIDED COIN?

Feminism according to the free online dictionary is an attitude favoring the movement to eliminate political, social and professional discrimination.

Seems simple enough on the surface but many people have taken view to a different side of feminism.attributing it to man- hating, anti - male bigotry. With even Pop Star Lady Gaga saying I am not a feminist. I hail men. raising the question Do feminists hate men?

Simon de Beauvoir
The history of the "F" word goes a long way back with even one incident where the Vatican even banned one of the most widely read feminist books The Second Sex published in 1949 by Simone de Beauvoir.

FEMINISM AND ITS TWO SIDES

Amid all the emotion and different aspects people view feminism, there are basically two sides to it which are;

  1. The Feminist who wants females to have equal rights as men but embraces their is a need for men in the society.
  2. The anti-male Feminist who see men rather as an obstacle to women development and He needs to be pushed out of the way for women to progress.

Of course, many female would succumb claiming that they are the first type of feminist when in actual sense they act according to the second type as explained above. It may even be hard to draw the distinction between the two.

Feminism is positive in the sense that it empowers women to take leadership roles, boosts their esteem and gives we women equal opportunies at life.

Feminism could however also prove negative, in many ways. To put it simply, it would as negative as in the situation when men decide to be chauvanist or embrace masculinism.

Tendencies to be chauvinist, that is tendencies of exaggerated patriotism and belief that a certain group is superior to another brings conflict where they could be harmony. In the end it would be better for everyone to accept everyone's opinions even though they may prove contrary to what we ourselves believe.

Coming to a mutual understanding is key.

Do you have any ideas, comments or criticisms  Feel free to share and comment in order to lead the world to a more peaceful place and bring a close to the debate of the "F" word.

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Friday, 23 November 2012

GLOBAL YOUTH FORUM


Every youth below the age of 25 has the chance to influence the decision on global policies on December 3 - 6, 2012 through the Global Youth Forum in Bali, Indonesia.

This is your chance to influence decisions on five key issues including; staying healthy, comprehensive education, transitions to decent employment for youth, sexuality, families and rights.

This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to make your voice heard and you can be a part of this event by;



There is a reason you should take the front seat and take advantage of this global opportunity to influence the  Global Forum that will take place in Indonesia this year 2012, as the effects of this discussion will be as far reaching as 2012.

Take a stand to be one of the 43% of youth to be heard and be a delegate in order to shape a future you want to see. Making a difference in the world has never been so easier.


Tuesday, 20 November 2012

HELP PROVIDE SAFETY FOR MAWAZO

Greetings,

This post will be a little different from the rest for two reasons. Firstly, it was written by a guest writer and secondly, it is because through this post you will be able to make a difference in someones life.

Introducing Mawazo, written by Pat Brennan, a sponsor to Uganda Charities. Should you feel a need to help Mawazo and her community, please contact him by E-mail.

THE STORY OF MAWAZO



Samwiri recovering from severe Malnutrition 

Mawazo is a thirteen year old girl. She is now the head of her family, with four younger siblings. They are living alone in a one roomed grass-thatched, tiny, old hut. They live in a village called Mukongoro, the last village at the top of the hill on the border of Uganda and Congo. Mawazo is an intelligent girl; hardworking, working all day to support her younger siblings. Samwiri is ten years old, Eliya is seven, Aaron is five and Kellen is three. None of the children attend school. Mawazo "dropped out" of school about a year ago, in order to look after the younger children. After the death of their parents, immediate relatives did not care for them and stole their property and land. The children live near their uncle, who is very poor. 






BWINDI COMMUNITY TEAM

Bwindi Hospital Community Team became aware of Mawazo, while visiting the village, during their routine malnutrition screening and mass de-worming programme. Samwiri was severely malnourished and was brought to Bwindi Community Hospital for admission. After intense treatment, Samwiri was discharged, but unfortunately had to be re-admitted, still suffering from severe malnutrition. It was at this time that the community team became aware Samwiri and his siblings were orphans, but also discovered there were no immediate relatives who were prepared to support the children, except for one uncle, who was too poor himself to be able to do much for the children. Samwiri has had further re-admissions to the hospital, because he is unable to receive enough nutritious food to aid his recovery.

Bwindi Hospital  Community Health Team appealed to to the hospital staff to support the children, especially with food and clothing. As a result of this appeal, the staff supplied the children with posho, beans, maize flour, sugar and butter. The community team visited Mawazo and her siblings, with special emphasis on checking Samwiri's progress. With regular checks, Samwiri is making slow, but positive progress.

Mawazo and her four younger siblings are in great need of a basic and improved shelter, food, clothing, health care and the opportunity to receive a school education. If these basic requirements are achieved, the chances of the children's survival will greatly increase.

This very sad and very shocking situation Mawazo, Samwiri, Eliya, Aaron and Kellen are in, is not a story, but reality. It is something, which we in our own developed countries, find very hard to appreciate and impossible to empathise with. I am sure Mawazo and her four younger siblings are not unique and maybe throughout Uganda, Africa and other parts of the underdeveloped world, there are similar children, trying to survive when all the odds are very much stacked against them. For humanitarian reasons, we have to do something for children such as Mawazo, Samwiri, Eliya, Aaron and Kellen.

Blessed Mother Teresa left us with many profound examples of caring for and supporting the poor and disadvantaged in our world. Blessed Mother Teresa once said:-

"When we die and it comes for God to judge, He won't ask how many good things have you done in your life, but how much love did you put into what you did."

Pat Brennan.





Thursday, 15 November 2012

Does Keeping a Gun in the Home increase Safety?

How far can you go to ensure your family is safe? Could keeping a gun in the house increase security levels in addition to burglar alarms, secure locks, burglar bars and good lighting among others.

If you consider keeping a gun in the house, it is best to review the facts in order to make the right decision.



GUN IS GOOD SECURITY TOOL WHEN;

  • It is used to increase security especially for seniors in the society and those at risk of being attacked
  • Hidden well but kept within good reach
  • When purchased legally
  • Everyone you are living with is comfortable with having a gun in the house
  • Gives you a defense tool to use if attacked


GUN IS A BAD SECURITY TOOL WHEN;



If you do not feel so secure keeping a gun, there are other alternatives; You can also opt for;

  • Wacth dogs
  • A home security system
  • Install a panic button
  • Install motion sensor light outside your home
  • Always apply safety rules

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Monday, 12 November 2012

Reporting A Crime

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The greatest concern we have when reporting a case is 'will anything be done about it?' Are we just wasting our time or simply causing ourselves to lose face.. or worse putting ourselves in danger when we report a criminal?

You may not want to report a crime for many reasons but remember that by reporting your crime, no matter how small or embarrassing you are helping to fight crime and reduce the risk of it happening again.

When you report a crime make sure;


  • Report the crime to the police soon after it happened and follow it up until evidence that something is being done about it.
  • When asked for details do not be afraid to tell everything as it happened, leaving out no detail.
  • Have someone you trust to support you as you proceed with your case.
  • Ask for Victim Support in your area. Victim support gives help to victims or witnesses of crime. This can be found mostly from the Police.
  • Do not give in to threat to drop the case, seek protection and take extra safety precautions until the criminal is arrested.
  • Ask for privacy in your case, if you are afraid of losing face or do not want many people to know about the crime you were involved in.
  • Seek outside help. There are non profit organisations everywhere willing to lend a hand in making sure you are justified for the crime commited to you. Do not be afraid to tell your story and ask for privacy if you feel you want your identity hidden.
  • Know how to write a Crime Scene Report so that your story is understood well and in full.
  • Be brave and courageous. By taking a stand against your crime, you are fighting crime everywhere.

Is there more you know about reporting a crime? Please inform us by commenting.


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Thursday, 8 November 2012

How not to be a Sexual Predator

We usually go looking for solutions to problems and often ignore what caused the problem in the first place. This came to my attention when a dear commentator reminded that 'Not one 'lesson' in the list on how not to be a predator.' This was a great point from a unique view because that is a part that is often when it could actually solve the problem of child abuse. So how can someone not be a Sexual Predator?

WHO IS A SEXUAL PREDATOR?

A sexual predator is a person who commits a sexually related crime.

See more definitions here;

SEX OFFENDERS    SEXUAL ABUSER     SEXUAL PREDATORS; KNOW THE ENEMY


HOW TO NOT BE A SEXUAL PREDATOR.

SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP

  • If you find yourself being sexually attracted to an infant this could have been caused by an error in biological hormonal reactions. For this seek professional help. Do not be shy to ask for help.

  • Learn forgiveness. Many sexual offenders may not have have been victims of sexual crime itself but mostly harbor rage in their hearts therefore making themselves insensitive to other people.
  • Have your emotions in check. If you find yourself desiring sexual intimacy with someone vulnerable and forcefully seek professional help. You will save yourself and someone else's life.
  • If you were a victim before, seek counselling and talk about it with a trusted person so that you do not repeat the crime that was done to you.


AVOID WATCHING PORNOGRAPHIC MATERIAL

  • Pornographic material could encourage and stir up the negative emotions that could lead you to become a sexual abuser hence avoid pornography in order that your mind does not get corrupt.
  • Pornography could incite ideas and wicked schemes an abuser could use on a victim, by simply watching pornography you are supporting the acts being performed there.
  • Pornography is grounded on abuse and not all who feature in the videos do so at their own free will and children's lives are destroyed all in the name of pornography so even if you are not a pornographer by watching porn, you are funding this dark cycle that can only be broken if you stop watching!
  • Remember there are consequences. No secrets can be kept forever. If you were not caught today, you will be caught tomorrow and pay dearly for ruining someones life. Sexually trespassing causes massive damage emotionally and physically to a victim.



BE REAL : ACTIONS IN SECRET SHOULD MATCH ACTIONS IN PUBLIC

  • Know your limits. You may be a friendly person but crossing the comfort line of friendship and forcing sexual intimacy will make you a sexual predator.
  • Do not view people simply as sexual objects to satisfy your sexual needs. Learn that there is more to people than just sex. How can you stop viewing people as sex objects when you have done so for a long time, just look at the world and acknowledge that most of the things made did not materialize from sexual activity.
  • Resist the urge to Manipulate. If you are manipulative by nature, you could try conforming your behavior in order to avoid committing crime.
  • Have a balanced self esteem. Sex offences are either with extremely low self esteem or extremely high self esteem. Find the right balance in life.

It is a real wonder what goes on in the mind of abusers, do you have any experiences to share?
Tell us your story and we will tell you ours because we are friends.
Leave a comment or contact us

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Tuesday, 6 November 2012

SOME SECRETS SHOULD NEVER BE KEPT

' But one day, while Alfred's mother was cleaning a far corner of the castle, Lord Henry started to tickle Alfred in a way that made him feel uncomfortable and sick inside.'
                                        - Jay Sanders. Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept -

Alfred is a child Hero in the Book Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept where he was confronted with a situation where a man so highly respected and liked and who had also given his mother much needed help approached the young boy sexually. This is a must read for every child, nursery teachers and parents should own this book. The online version read by Debra Byrne can be found here.

Also recommended for your children is the book GRACIE FINDS HER VOICE  by Jacob Williams on VOICE TODAY.



WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO EDUCATE YOUNG CHILDREN ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE?

  • Children are a usual target by predators because they are vulnerable hence educating them will make them aware when a situation is wrong.
  • Educating children on child sexual abuse empowers them to know when they are being abused and how they should react.
  • Using story books as a reach-out tool to children allows them to learn of serious matters in a fun way through illustrations and this also improves reading culture.
  • Teaching your child about sexual abuse makes them understand that their body is valuable and that they as children are priceless. It makes them understand their worth.
  • It educates children on the level of intimacy they are supposed to have and not supposed to have with people.
  • Creates a trust chain between educator and child because if the child has experienced something and you tell them about it, they will trust you to know the solution because they will discover the secret was never ever meant to be a secret in the first place.

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Saturday, 3 November 2012

JIMMY SAVILLE; LESSONS TO BE LEARNT

Jimmy Saville ( 31. 10. 1926 - 29. 10. 2011) though late has been making  Headlines not as positive as  when he was alive and making hits for the BBC, having impressive charity fundraising for the The Jimmy Saville Charitable Trust as well as Hospital Trust among others.

Recently, Sexual Abuse Claims against Saville are slowly eroding all the good charitable deeds he portrayed to the public , bringing doubts to whether the BBC helped in covering his pedophile cases as well as putting his Charity foundations and other Partners at a risk of falling out because of the covering up of abuse.

What lesson should we learn from Jimmy Saville fiasco?



  • Sexual abuse or abuse of any kind should not be hidden, ignored or go unreported.
  • All suspicious behavior should be scrutinized and not ignored.
  • Trust should not be bought but earned. This simply means that just because someone gives you things, does not mean they can be trusted. You are encouraged to know the the signs when to trust someone.
  • Sex Offenders do not come with a tag. Be cautious and do not ignore the signs that someone is a sexual predator. Anyone can be a criminal, regardless of male, female, famous or not, apply the same caution to everyone.
  • Children should be educated on how to stand up for themselves and say no in order to reduce sexual abuse.


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Tuesday, 30 October 2012

HOW TO GET JUSTICE FROM A MAD MAN!


Mad men are walking free! Murderers and criminals on the loose because they are deemed Insane or abnormal. Is there a way to get justice from a man deemed insane?

But what is Normal? Should a crime committed by a normal person have different punishment than that committed by an insane man?

          "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."
                        - Martin Luther -

As Martin Luther put it, Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.  So it is justifiable to get justice for a crime committed by an insane man?

Yes there is! I went and asked some inside sources who have knowledge on Law (particularly Thailand).

If you have been victimized by an "insane" man; Follow some of these tips as you seek legal help;

  • Crazy by law? When bringing up a case against an 'insane' man. You should know whether the person is crazy by law. Does this insane person have a document that certifies them medically insane?
  • Find if this insane person has any known relatives who can represent him before the law.
  • Are there any known people the insane has abused before? See if you can get in touch with them to be witness to the insane's man behavior.
  • Were there any eye witnesses at the place where the abuse took place?
  • What time did the abuse take place and at what place?
  • When reporting your case, recreate the event accurately without altering or hiding any details because it may cost your case if discovered.
  • Present documents, either photos, hospital document stating the damage caused, a police report and the like as proof that the abuse took place.
  • Rally up supporters who will stand with you each step of the way.
  • Do not be afraid to bring up your case and fight for it till you get your full compensation and the 'insane' man is punished for his offence.
  • Most importantly, get a good lawyer who will care for you and not want to exploit you out of your money. It may help to be referred to a lawyer by friends or family.

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