Wednesday, 30 May 2012

DEMI LOVATO, A LIFE ROLE MODEL

GIVE YOUR HEART A BREAK


A valuable Inspiration we can draw from the American Singer, Song writer and Actress, Demi Lovato who when from a young age had struggled with physical and emotional struggles but in the end managed to come out stronger and has stayed strong after seeking help.

She inspires many to stay strong regardless of the troubles they face and can teach us all to give our hearts a break from all the emotional entangles we can face. Emotions are a great factor in our lives and can have devastating effects if we do not accept them and learn to control them or attend to them.

Another great factor to help is by surrounding ourselves with supportive people, our family and especially having good friends to help us through it all. There is only so much you can take. It is time to rise above like a skyscraper. Give her songs a listen and feel inspired all over again. Go Demi Lovato!



Demi Lovato


Give Your Heart a Break song By Demi Lovato


Skyscaper song by Demi Lovato


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Friday, 25 May 2012

HOW TO SAY NO AND MEAN IT

There are many times when we mean No but actually end up saying Yes. Here are some steps to Saying No and Meaning it.


  • BE FIRM AND BOLD BOTH IN POSTURE AND VOICE. This gives an impression you mean what you say.
  • DON'T MAKE PROMISES YOU CAN'T KEEP. Like I will do it later when you know you will not.
  • IF THEY PUT PRESSURE ON YOU SAY YOU WILL THINK ABOUT IT AND ESCAPE FAST.
  • DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP FROM SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A TIGHT SPOT.


Monday, 21 May 2012

HOW TO BE THE BETTER PERSON IN A RELATIONSHIP

Sometimes we get tired and thrown around by life, we get disappointed by the people around and the circumstances don't help either. Somebody once told me that in life we ought not to kill our enemy but rather kill enmity in order to have peace. So how do you become the better person in whatever relationship that is going sour? Try these tips;


  • NEVER TAKE IT TOO PERSONNEL. It may indeed be personal but taking it that way makes it more emotional and less easy to make a rational decision.
  • BE THE BETTER PERSON. Act nice even if they ignore your sweet actions. It does not mean looking stupid, its just being the better man. 
  • DO NOT GO AN EXTRA MILE, JUST BE NICE WHEN THEY ARE AROUND YOU.
  • DO NOT IGNORE THEM WHATSOEVER, even if it hurts but being the better person means swallowing your pride.
  • ACT LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOREVER AND THEY HAVE NEVER OFFENDED YOU WHEN THEY ARE AROUND YOU.
  • BE HUMBLE BUT NOT TO THE POINT OF STUPIDITY.
  • BE FORGIVING.
  • BE TRUTHFUL ALWAYS.
  • COMMUNICATE AT ALL TIMES IN WHATEVER RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE.

It always pays to be the first man on the walk to reconciliation. Be safe, SFG!


Saturday, 19 May 2012

HOW TO KNOW WHEN TO TRUST

There are many instances in life where we have to decide whether to trust someone or not. Some steps to knowing who you can trust are to observe the following signs;


  • THEIR WORDS MATCH THEIR ACTIONS.
  • THEY DO NOT FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING NEGATIVE THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO.
  • THEY TRUST YOU.
  • YOUR TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON IS NOT A SECRET.
  • THEIR IS TRANSPARENCY IN THE COMMUNICATION BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU.
  • THEY DO NOT TRY TO ISOLATE YOU FROM YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY AND ACQUAINTANCES.
  • THEY WILL NOT TRY TO MANIPULATE YOU IN ANY WAY.
  • THEY WILL GO AN EXTRA MILE TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE COMFORTABLE AND SAFE.
  • YOU WILL FEEL FREE AND SAFE WITH THAT PERSON.
  • THEY WILL NOT DEMAND ANYTHING IN RETURN FOR WHAT THEY DO FOR YOU E.G SLY FAVORS THAT ARE TO BE KEPT A SECRET.

Take your time and find company in people you can trust. If it has not yet happened it will. ;) But in every situation, trust yourself and put your instincts first because sometimes the truth is beyond what eyes can see. Be safe!


Thursday, 17 May 2012

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO STOP TRUSTING

Many times we think people will remain the same. Once they like us we expect them to like us forever, the sad reality is that times change, for better or even worse. What then, how would we know the person is the same one that we used to know. How would we know that the particular person deserves our trust?

READ THE SIGNS


There's no bigger sign than the tale-tell signs that someone is no longer the same. Some of the signs could be;


  • COMMUNICATION BREAK DOWN. You no longer communicate as frequently as you used to.
  • SOMETHING IN YOUR GUT TELL YOU SOMETHING MIGHT BE WRONG. Never ignore your little gut feelings.
  • THEY IGNORE YOU.
  • THEY LIE TO YOU.
  • NO MORE EYE CONTACT.
  • MAKING OVER THE TOP DEMANDS FROM YOU. etc

However, sometimes people just need a break and in the next issue we will discuss when to trust someone. Don't feel bad if someone you trusted starts to show these signs, you are worth so much better.
Be safe, SFG.


Saturday, 12 May 2012

TAKE ACTION : YOUTH FOR HUMAN RIGHTS

Take Action, Petitions, Membership, Sponsors, DVD, Booklet and Educational Materials : Youth For Human Rights

The world is fast changing with so much transitions going on everywhere that at one point you may stop and wonder; Wait, I think I am lost or Why? Times are changing too fast.

With new trends coming and going it is very important to know your Human Rights in order to know your stand in this fast changing world and not give anyone a chance to violate them. Your human rights also allow you to;


  • You become more Confident in your everyday activities. If you do not know your human rights, you are prone to become a victim without even knowing it. Confidence comes with knowledge.
  • You become a Role Model. Learning your human rights and activating them in your lifestyle sets you apart. You may never notice it but people notice your behavior and sometimes copy from it. You don't have to be a superstar to become a role model.
  • You make a Difference. By simply deciding to learn about your Human Rights, you make a difference in the World! How? You may ask. Because you have learnt your human rights and because I have learnt my Human Rights there are less people in the world who do not know their Human Rights.
  • You Stand Out from the crowd. Knowledge is indeed power. By knowing your human rights, you can volunteer and share informed ideas on how to make the world a better place hence simply by knowing, you can become a Leader.
  • When you are a Leader in Human Rights, you get the Power to change the world which makes you a role model of change.

Aren't those amazing aspects of simply learning your Human Rights? I also did not know this knowledge until someone told me about it. Why don't you go and educate someone about their Human Rights today and make a difference.

Are you or Do you know anyone who needs help because there Human Rights have been refused of them? Share your story with us today and make a change.

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GO SFG!

Friday, 11 May 2012

HOW WOMEN DRESS: drawing the line between trashy & edgy

TIME TO DRAW THE LINE BETWEEN TRASHY AND EDGY

Ok, so you like to look edgy. Got an edgy hairstyle with stripes of pink and green in it. Wow, you even got your nose pierced. Your dress sense screams rock star, no wonder you get all those stares.

Your look is cool but is that look only cut out for actual celebrities? Where do we draw the line between Edgy and Trashy so that we do not end up attracting the wrong crowds like beens happening lately?

Fear not, I have been there before and sometimes it so irritatingly happens regularly that I end up asking myself 'Do I look like a Prostitute?'

Remember these tips next time you go out;
  • You have the right to dress in whatever way that you deem appropriate but remember in a world where people live by sight, people will judge you by how you dress. Of course we know better but let us remember too that others have their own views too.
  • Keep your dressing smart or classy and avoid skimpy outfits. Yes there is a difference, between sexy diva and just a sexy girl. In a world where the media more or less sells off women as sex symbols, the mind of men have possibly been corrupted to see reality of women as just that. Of course we are more than that and the time has come to let them know.
  • Avoid showing more skin than necessary. Doing that would only send wrong signals. Scientific studies have shown that mens congintive processes become impaired when they see a woman in a Bikini. In short, they just dont think Straight if you reveal too much skin. That does not, however give them a right to treat us in any way just because of the way we are dressed. Let us simply stay safe.
  • Limit the amount of jewelery on you. Wear just enough jewelery for your outfit. Even Men have become "Goldiggers" these days and showing too much bling or accesorising too much could easily make you a target to liers, scammers and even thieves.
  • Keep your make up light unless for special occasion. Too much makeup can create a wrong impression in so many cases. Afterall you want someone to get to know the real you. Yes, You are beautiful
  • Talk sense. After first impresions how you talk will tell volumes about you and in what category someone will place you. Speak freely and do not try to exagerate or change your speech for someones sake as this may lead you to being viewed in a way you are not. It helps to speak intelligent. Be yourself.
  • Walk with the Right Crowd. Avoid being alone at all times as this makes you an easy prey. Always hang out in places that are not questionable. The place you hang out could lead people to judge you accordingly even when its not the case. If you hang out at the shopping mall, people will view you as a frequent shopper and treat you as that. Always in the club, people will treat you as a club girl, always in the church, people will treat as a church girl. Get the point? Sometimes no matter where you are, people will treat you how they want.
  • Therefore while you can control how people view you and treat you, sometimes, you just can't.
  • In any case, also always know YOUR HUMAN RIGHTS!

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Wednesday, 9 May 2012

HOW TO KNOW HE JUST WANTS TO BANG

So you are walking alone in town and you get cornered by some hot guy, ok maybe not so hot and he says hi. Being the friendly person that you are you respond and say hi too.


HOLD IT!!!
MISTAKE YOU ARE WALKING ALONE!
Walking alone makes you an easy prey for anyone, good, bad, dangerous and even simply curious people.  But always think as to WHY THEY WANT TO TALK TO YOU. Of course you are pretty and this amazing guy would like to know you. Of course but not everyone has pure intentions especially that you are a pretty face. Maybe not so pretty but being a girl makes you vulnerable anyway. Leave if you are not ready to do anything sexual with this guy.

SO HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS GUY JUST WANTS SEX?

WATCH OUT IF;

  • HE KEEPS THE CONVERSATION LIGHT. This shows he is not much interested in anything more than the surface which just happens to be your body.
  • HE ASKS OR OFFERS YOU ALCOHOL. Even when you declined.
  • HE COMPLIMENTS YOUR BODY AND SAYS YOU LOOK STRONG / SPORTSY / FIRM. Or anything similar like asking if you work out or anything in those lines.
  • OFFERS TO BUY YOU A MEAL IN A RESRAURANT BUT TAKES YOU TO A HOTEL INSTEAD. MISTAKE, WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM AT THIS POINT?
  • TOUCHES YOU IN A WAY ONLY YOUR BOYFRIEND WOULD. Are you getting the picture now. Its just the small touches, dont be fooled.
  • DOES NOT MAKE MUCH EFFORT TO KNOW YOU BETTER THROUGH CONVERSATION. Just walk away sweetheart.

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GOOD ADVICE

If you see all these signs and know things may not end well. You may do as follows.

  • TRUST YOUR GUTS. It may not scream loud and clear but it always says what do you think you are doing?
  • DO NOT WALK ALONE if you can help it.
  • WHEN YOU WALK ALONE, DO NOT TALK TO STRANGERS even if they look super hot.
  • WHEN YOU TALK TO STRANGERS KEEP IT BRIEF AND HURRY AWAY. If you are a die-hard friend maker, take their contacts and meet up in a well crowded area YOU suggestested.
  • WHEN ASKED IF ALONE NEVER ADMIT THAT YOU ARE even if you are. Always claim that you are with your boyfriend or your family.
  • IF THINGS GET UGLY, SCREAM. Always carry something for self-defense e.g a cigarrette lighter or pocket knife. Get away as fast as you can.  
  • DO NOT GO INTO A ROOM ALONE WITH A STRANGER.