Thursday, 29 November 2012

FEMINISM; A TWO SIDED COIN?

Feminism according to the free online dictionary is an attitude favoring the movement to eliminate political, social and professional discrimination.

Seems simple enough on the surface but many people have taken view to a different side of feminism.attributing it to man- hating, anti - male bigotry. With even Pop Star Lady Gaga saying I am not a feminist. I hail men. raising the question Do feminists hate men?

Simon de Beauvoir
The history of the "F" word goes a long way back with even one incident where the Vatican even banned one of the most widely read feminist books The Second Sex published in 1949 by Simone de Beauvoir.

FEMINISM AND ITS TWO SIDES

Amid all the emotion and different aspects people view feminism, there are basically two sides to it which are;

  1. The Feminist who wants females to have equal rights as men but embraces their is a need for men in the society.
  2. The anti-male Feminist who see men rather as an obstacle to women development and He needs to be pushed out of the way for women to progress.

Of course, many female would succumb claiming that they are the first type of feminist when in actual sense they act according to the second type as explained above. It may even be hard to draw the distinction between the two.

Feminism is positive in the sense that it empowers women to take leadership roles, boosts their esteem and gives we women equal opportunies at life.

Feminism could however also prove negative, in many ways. To put it simply, it would as negative as in the situation when men decide to be chauvanist or embrace masculinism.

Tendencies to be chauvinist, that is tendencies of exaggerated patriotism and belief that a certain group is superior to another brings conflict where they could be harmony. In the end it would be better for everyone to accept everyone's opinions even though they may prove contrary to what we ourselves believe.

Coming to a mutual understanding is key.

Do you have any ideas, comments or criticisms  Feel free to share and comment in order to lead the world to a more peaceful place and bring a close to the debate of the "F" word.

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Friday, 23 November 2012

GLOBAL YOUTH FORUM


Every youth below the age of 25 has the chance to influence the decision on global policies on December 3 - 6, 2012 through the Global Youth Forum in Bali, Indonesia.

This is your chance to influence decisions on five key issues including; staying healthy, comprehensive education, transitions to decent employment for youth, sexuality, families and rights.

This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to make your voice heard and you can be a part of this event by;



There is a reason you should take the front seat and take advantage of this global opportunity to influence the  Global Forum that will take place in Indonesia this year 2012, as the effects of this discussion will be as far reaching as 2012.

Take a stand to be one of the 43% of youth to be heard and be a delegate in order to shape a future you want to see. Making a difference in the world has never been so easier.


Tuesday, 20 November 2012

HELP PROVIDE SAFETY FOR MAWAZO

Greetings,

This post will be a little different from the rest for two reasons. Firstly, it was written by a guest writer and secondly, it is because through this post you will be able to make a difference in someones life.

Introducing Mawazo, written by Pat Brennan, a sponsor to Uganda Charities. Should you feel a need to help Mawazo and her community, please contact him by E-mail.

THE STORY OF MAWAZO



Samwiri recovering from severe Malnutrition 

Mawazo is a thirteen year old girl. She is now the head of her family, with four younger siblings. They are living alone in a one roomed grass-thatched, tiny, old hut. They live in a village called Mukongoro, the last village at the top of the hill on the border of Uganda and Congo. Mawazo is an intelligent girl; hardworking, working all day to support her younger siblings. Samwiri is ten years old, Eliya is seven, Aaron is five and Kellen is three. None of the children attend school. Mawazo "dropped out" of school about a year ago, in order to look after the younger children. After the death of their parents, immediate relatives did not care for them and stole their property and land. The children live near their uncle, who is very poor. 






BWINDI COMMUNITY TEAM

Bwindi Hospital Community Team became aware of Mawazo, while visiting the village, during their routine malnutrition screening and mass de-worming programme. Samwiri was severely malnourished and was brought to Bwindi Community Hospital for admission. After intense treatment, Samwiri was discharged, but unfortunately had to be re-admitted, still suffering from severe malnutrition. It was at this time that the community team became aware Samwiri and his siblings were orphans, but also discovered there were no immediate relatives who were prepared to support the children, except for one uncle, who was too poor himself to be able to do much for the children. Samwiri has had further re-admissions to the hospital, because he is unable to receive enough nutritious food to aid his recovery.

Bwindi Hospital  Community Health Team appealed to to the hospital staff to support the children, especially with food and clothing. As a result of this appeal, the staff supplied the children with posho, beans, maize flour, sugar and butter. The community team visited Mawazo and her siblings, with special emphasis on checking Samwiri's progress. With regular checks, Samwiri is making slow, but positive progress.

Mawazo and her four younger siblings are in great need of a basic and improved shelter, food, clothing, health care and the opportunity to receive a school education. If these basic requirements are achieved, the chances of the children's survival will greatly increase.

This very sad and very shocking situation Mawazo, Samwiri, Eliya, Aaron and Kellen are in, is not a story, but reality. It is something, which we in our own developed countries, find very hard to appreciate and impossible to empathise with. I am sure Mawazo and her four younger siblings are not unique and maybe throughout Uganda, Africa and other parts of the underdeveloped world, there are similar children, trying to survive when all the odds are very much stacked against them. For humanitarian reasons, we have to do something for children such as Mawazo, Samwiri, Eliya, Aaron and Kellen.

Blessed Mother Teresa left us with many profound examples of caring for and supporting the poor and disadvantaged in our world. Blessed Mother Teresa once said:-

"When we die and it comes for God to judge, He won't ask how many good things have you done in your life, but how much love did you put into what you did."

Pat Brennan.





Thursday, 15 November 2012

Does Keeping a Gun in the Home increase Safety?

How far can you go to ensure your family is safe? Could keeping a gun in the house increase security levels in addition to burglar alarms, secure locks, burglar bars and good lighting among others.

If you consider keeping a gun in the house, it is best to review the facts in order to make the right decision.



GUN IS GOOD SECURITY TOOL WHEN;

  • It is used to increase security especially for seniors in the society and those at risk of being attacked
  • Hidden well but kept within good reach
  • When purchased legally
  • Everyone you are living with is comfortable with having a gun in the house
  • Gives you a defense tool to use if attacked


GUN IS A BAD SECURITY TOOL WHEN;



If you do not feel so secure keeping a gun, there are other alternatives; You can also opt for;

  • Wacth dogs
  • A home security system
  • Install a panic button
  • Install motion sensor light outside your home
  • Always apply safety rules

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Monday, 12 November 2012

Reporting A Crime

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The greatest concern we have when reporting a case is 'will anything be done about it?' Are we just wasting our time or simply causing ourselves to lose face.. or worse putting ourselves in danger when we report a criminal?

You may not want to report a crime for many reasons but remember that by reporting your crime, no matter how small or embarrassing you are helping to fight crime and reduce the risk of it happening again.

When you report a crime make sure;


  • Report the crime to the police soon after it happened and follow it up until evidence that something is being done about it.
  • When asked for details do not be afraid to tell everything as it happened, leaving out no detail.
  • Have someone you trust to support you as you proceed with your case.
  • Ask for Victim Support in your area. Victim support gives help to victims or witnesses of crime. This can be found mostly from the Police.
  • Do not give in to threat to drop the case, seek protection and take extra safety precautions until the criminal is arrested.
  • Ask for privacy in your case, if you are afraid of losing face or do not want many people to know about the crime you were involved in.
  • Seek outside help. There are non profit organisations everywhere willing to lend a hand in making sure you are justified for the crime commited to you. Do not be afraid to tell your story and ask for privacy if you feel you want your identity hidden.
  • Know how to write a Crime Scene Report so that your story is understood well and in full.
  • Be brave and courageous. By taking a stand against your crime, you are fighting crime everywhere.

Is there more you know about reporting a crime? Please inform us by commenting.


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Thursday, 8 November 2012

How not to be a Sexual Predator

We usually go looking for solutions to problems and often ignore what caused the problem in the first place. This came to my attention when a dear commentator reminded that 'Not one 'lesson' in the list on how not to be a predator.' This was a great point from a unique view because that is a part that is often when it could actually solve the problem of child abuse. So how can someone not be a Sexual Predator?

WHO IS A SEXUAL PREDATOR?

A sexual predator is a person who commits a sexually related crime.

See more definitions here;

SEX OFFENDERS    SEXUAL ABUSER     SEXUAL PREDATORS; KNOW THE ENEMY


HOW TO NOT BE A SEXUAL PREDATOR.

SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP

  • If you find yourself being sexually attracted to an infant this could have been caused by an error in biological hormonal reactions. For this seek professional help. Do not be shy to ask for help.

  • Learn forgiveness. Many sexual offenders may not have have been victims of sexual crime itself but mostly harbor rage in their hearts therefore making themselves insensitive to other people.
  • Have your emotions in check. If you find yourself desiring sexual intimacy with someone vulnerable and forcefully seek professional help. You will save yourself and someone else's life.
  • If you were a victim before, seek counselling and talk about it with a trusted person so that you do not repeat the crime that was done to you.


AVOID WATCHING PORNOGRAPHIC MATERIAL

  • Pornographic material could encourage and stir up the negative emotions that could lead you to become a sexual abuser hence avoid pornography in order that your mind does not get corrupt.
  • Pornography could incite ideas and wicked schemes an abuser could use on a victim, by simply watching pornography you are supporting the acts being performed there.
  • Pornography is grounded on abuse and not all who feature in the videos do so at their own free will and children's lives are destroyed all in the name of pornography so even if you are not a pornographer by watching porn, you are funding this dark cycle that can only be broken if you stop watching!
  • Remember there are consequences. No secrets can be kept forever. If you were not caught today, you will be caught tomorrow and pay dearly for ruining someones life. Sexually trespassing causes massive damage emotionally and physically to a victim.



BE REAL : ACTIONS IN SECRET SHOULD MATCH ACTIONS IN PUBLIC

  • Know your limits. You may be a friendly person but crossing the comfort line of friendship and forcing sexual intimacy will make you a sexual predator.
  • Do not view people simply as sexual objects to satisfy your sexual needs. Learn that there is more to people than just sex. How can you stop viewing people as sex objects when you have done so for a long time, just look at the world and acknowledge that most of the things made did not materialize from sexual activity.
  • Resist the urge to Manipulate. If you are manipulative by nature, you could try conforming your behavior in order to avoid committing crime.
  • Have a balanced self esteem. Sex offences are either with extremely low self esteem or extremely high self esteem. Find the right balance in life.

It is a real wonder what goes on in the mind of abusers, do you have any experiences to share?
Tell us your story and we will tell you ours because we are friends.
Leave a comment or contact us

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Tuesday, 6 November 2012

SOME SECRETS SHOULD NEVER BE KEPT

' But one day, while Alfred's mother was cleaning a far corner of the castle, Lord Henry started to tickle Alfred in a way that made him feel uncomfortable and sick inside.'
                                        - Jay Sanders. Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept -

Alfred is a child Hero in the Book Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept where he was confronted with a situation where a man so highly respected and liked and who had also given his mother much needed help approached the young boy sexually. This is a must read for every child, nursery teachers and parents should own this book. The online version read by Debra Byrne can be found here.

Also recommended for your children is the book GRACIE FINDS HER VOICE  by Jacob Williams on VOICE TODAY.



WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO EDUCATE YOUNG CHILDREN ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE?

  • Children are a usual target by predators because they are vulnerable hence educating them will make them aware when a situation is wrong.
  • Educating children on child sexual abuse empowers them to know when they are being abused and how they should react.
  • Using story books as a reach-out tool to children allows them to learn of serious matters in a fun way through illustrations and this also improves reading culture.
  • Teaching your child about sexual abuse makes them understand that their body is valuable and that they as children are priceless. It makes them understand their worth.
  • It educates children on the level of intimacy they are supposed to have and not supposed to have with people.
  • Creates a trust chain between educator and child because if the child has experienced something and you tell them about it, they will trust you to know the solution because they will discover the secret was never ever meant to be a secret in the first place.

Do you have any experiences or additions to this article. Feel free to add by comment or email us to know what you would like to read about next.

This is an I AM SAFE Project by Safety First for Girls.
Tell us your story and we will tell you ours for we are friends.

Contact us today at; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com


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Saturday, 3 November 2012

JIMMY SAVILLE; LESSONS TO BE LEARNT

Jimmy Saville ( 31. 10. 1926 - 29. 10. 2011) though late has been making  Headlines not as positive as  when he was alive and making hits for the BBC, having impressive charity fundraising for the The Jimmy Saville Charitable Trust as well as Hospital Trust among others.

Recently, Sexual Abuse Claims against Saville are slowly eroding all the good charitable deeds he portrayed to the public , bringing doubts to whether the BBC helped in covering his pedophile cases as well as putting his Charity foundations and other Partners at a risk of falling out because of the covering up of abuse.

What lesson should we learn from Jimmy Saville fiasco?



  • Sexual abuse or abuse of any kind should not be hidden, ignored or go unreported.
  • All suspicious behavior should be scrutinized and not ignored.
  • Trust should not be bought but earned. This simply means that just because someone gives you things, does not mean they can be trusted. You are encouraged to know the the signs when to trust someone.
  • Sex Offenders do not come with a tag. Be cautious and do not ignore the signs that someone is a sexual predator. Anyone can be a criminal, regardless of male, female, famous or not, apply the same caution to everyone.
  • Children should be educated on how to stand up for themselves and say no in order to reduce sexual abuse.


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