Friday, 20 December 2013

SPONSOR A CHILD & HELP END ILLITERACY

WHAT IS ILLITERACY?

Illiteracy is the inability to read or write. Illiteracy can be caused by the hindrance to a good education for multiple reasons such social, family or motivation problems. The rate of illiteracy is ascending by 32% according to a study by WSI (World Statistics Institute).

Illiteracy not only curbs a countries development but it also hinders the individual growth of a person to reach their full potential. This could also hinder their descendants from achieving a higher goal as illiteracy will be seen as a way of life.

Education is key to curbing illiteracy world wide.



HOW CAN YOU HELP?

There are so many ways you can help a child realize their potential and that is by giving them an education. However, children in rural areas do not have the privileged of benefiting in education due to many factors such as: insufficient tuition fees, education centers beings afar off, no one in their family being literate, having to work at a young age and having no one to sponsor their education.

This is where you come in. You can help make education a reality for unprivileged children by:


1. SPONSOR A CHILD TO SCHOOL

With the partnership of Buumbalambo foundation, you can sponsor a child in the rural part of Zambia, Africa to school so that they will be able to have their educational needs met for the betterment of the world.

Please Contact us for further details on how you can help a kid go to school.


2.  DONATE EXERCISE BOOKS AND CHILDREN READING BOOKS

Do you have a bunch of old reading books that you are no longer need of? Is a school near you willing to donate books and stationery to help curb illiteracy in the rural world? Why don't you get in touch with them and organize to have books sent to the children who need them? Contact us for more information.


3. DONATE MONETARY FUNDS, CLOTHES & OTHER USEFUL SUPPLIES

Another reason the children in rural areas are not educated is because they have to look for other ways to survive. Before education, they need to eat, they need to have shelter and most also have the key responsibility of taking care of the family needs. So whilst providing an education for them is key, they also need to survive and monetary funds, clothes for children 1 - 10 years old, food and other useful supplies can motivate them to seek an education.

All proceeds go to the Foundations account. Contact us for more information.


4. CREATE AN EVENT TO RAISE AWARENESS

You can call up your friends, family and colleagues or your community at large to gather up resources that are still useful but that you do not need and send it over. Make a difference today and spread the word. Together let us make the world a better place. Contact us with your ideas.



MORE ABOUT BUUMBALAMBO FOUNDATION

Street children selling instead of learning.
Buumbalambo foundation is a registered Non Profit founded by Buumba Malambo, in Zambia Africa. This organisation helps unprivileged children by advocating for their education, giving these children various outlets to promote their talents like fashion and sports so that they will not turn to societies malpractices even though with less education, donating clothes and supplies to the children that don't have and much more.

With your help and the help of volunteers, donors and other funds, Buumbalambo foundation is reaching out to underprivileged children on the streets and also in the rural areas of Africa, Zambia.



BUUMBA MALAMBO

Buumba Malambo, 22, is a student at the University of Zambia and she founded the Non Profit organisation Buumbalambo foundation (Registration number: ORS/102/35/4792).  To find out more about her, read page 34 - 35 of the Girl Safety Signs Educational Booklet here.

She has also won the African Young Achievers Award AFIA- AYANET (2013), the Voice of Africa Award, is also a member of Young Women in Action organisation among many other notable accomplishments.

To find out more about her work, visit the Buumbalambo foundation Facebook page. See some pictures below.
Buumba with a local girl. Books encourage learning.

Children celebrating after receiving books from donors.
Giving donations to children: Buumbalambo foundation.

Buumba and some children in the village.

Children learning in a make shift classroom.
knowledge-thirsty children. Sponsor one.
To find out more about other organisations you can help or donate to, feel free to Contact us. Make a difference today!

Sunday, 15 December 2013

CREATE A SAFETY PLAN

Many things happen in ours lives but some of those things can  be prepared for. For those trying to escape an abusive relationship, you will need a safety plan to do so. If you are going out camping, you will need a safety plan in case things don't go as planned and even when just living in normal conditions, a safety plan gives us the reassurance we need in case of danger.


Image from : the healing journey website


WHAT IS A SAFETY PLAN?

A safety plan is a detailed preparation on actions to take in case of danger made in advance in order to maximize the victims safety. Not every safety plan can be the same because each individual is different and so are the situation we may face. may be there situation. 



WHERE AND WHEN CAN A SAFETY PLAN BE USED?

A safety plan may be devised for many different purposes for example when:

  • stopping child abuse 
  • preventing home violence
  • leaving an abuser 
  • working with a bad boss
  • protecting your children
  • saving someone from human trafficking among many other factors.



WHO CREATES A SAFETY PLAN?

Each safety plan is personalized, therefore, it needs to be created by you. This can be done with the help of a professional i.e. some non profit organizations, a social worker or even a trusted friend and family member.


WHAT IS IN A SAFETY PLAN?

Even though each safety plan is different. The following information is generally important in each plan:


  • A plan of action. What does the victim intend to do to escape the danger.
  • Recognize the behavioral patterns of the abuser and from that derive the best way to avoid the danger even if behavior cannot be changed.
  • Determine who is at risk, is it just the victim or others too?
  • Identify the action to increase safety for the victim/s.
  • Alternative shelter in case of danger.
  • Whether to survive the problem or leave the abuser.
  • Evidence of the abuse e.g video or voice recordings, pictures, emails and/or witnesses among others.
  • Emergency contact number.
  • Emergency funds like money or resources.
  • Remember to seek advice when making a safety plan.

HOW LONG IS THE SAFETY PLAN SUPPOSED TO COVER

The plan covers for the long term and not just the escape. Plan for something from 3 months to a year.

For further information on your safety plan, you may also like to read:

SAFETY PLANS : THE HEALING JOURNEY

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Sunday, 24 November 2013

14 REASONS PEOPLE STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

By Ronke Ojeikere-ikoroh in ZAHARA Women Foundation.


Abuse can be either verbal, emotional and physical.
People who have never been abused often wonder why a person wouldn't just leave. They don't understand that breaking up can be more complicated than it seems.

There are many reasons why both men and women stay in abusive relationships. If you have a friend in an unhealthy relationship, support them by understanding why they may choose not to leave immediately:

  1. CONFLICTING EMOTIONS / FEAR: Fear about what will happen once they decide to leave the relationship. If the victim is threatened by their partner, family or friends, they may not feel safe leaving.
  2. BELIEVING ABUSE IS NORMAL: If the victim doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like, perhaps from growing up in an environment where abuse was common, they may not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy.
  3. EMBARRASSMENT: It's probably hard for a victim to admit they've been abused. They may feel they've done something wrong by becoming involved with an abusive partner. They may also worry that their friends, colleagues and family will judge them.
  4. LOW SELF ESTEEM: If the victim's partner constantly puts them down and blames them for the abuse, it can be easy for the victim to believe those statements and think that the abuse is their fault.
  5. LOVE: Victims may stay in an abusive relationship hoping their abuser will change. Think about it -- if a person you love tells you they'll change, you want to believe them. The victim may only want for the violence to stop, not for the relationship to end entirely.
  6. SOCIAL PRESSURE / PEER PRESSURE: If the abuser is popular, it can be hard for the victim to tell their friends for fear that no one will believe them or that everyone will take the abuser's side.
  7. CULTURAL / RELIGIOUS REASONS: Traditional gender roles can make it difficult for young women to admit being sexually active and for young men to admit being abused. Also, the victims culture or religion may influence them to stay rather than end the relationship for fear of bringing shame upon the family.
  8. PREGNANCY / PARENTING: The victim may feel pressure to raise their children with both parents together, even if that means staying in an abusive relationship. Also, the abusive partner may threaten to take or harm the children if the victim parent leaves.
  9. DISTRUST OF ADULTS OR AUTHORITY PUPPY-LOVE PHENOMENA: Adults often don't believe that teens really experience love. So if something goes wrong in the relationship, the victim may feel like they have no adults to turn to or that no one will take them seriously.
  10. DISTRUST OF POLICE: Many feel that the police cannot or will not help them, so they don't report the abuse.
  11. RELIANCE ON THE ABUSIVE PARTNER: The victim may find it hard to live especially if they feel they cannot survive without the support of their abusive partner.
  12. LACK OF MONEY: The victim may have become financially dependent on the abusive partner. Without money, it can seem impossible for them to leave the relationship.
  13. NOWHERE TO GO: Even if the victim could leave, they may think that they have nowhere to go or no one to turn to once they've ended the relationship. This feeling of helplessness can be especially strong if the victim lives with their abusive partner.
  14. DISABILITY: If the victim is physically dependent on their abusive partner, they can feel that their well-being is connected to the relationship. This dependency could heavily influence his or her decision to stay in an abusive relationship.

HOW CAN I HELP?
If you have friends or family members who are in unhealthy or abusive relationships, the most important thing you should do is:
  • Be supportive and listen to them.
  • Don't judge them. Understand living in an unhealthy relationship is not easy.
  • Seek ways to help the victim from the abusive relationship.
  • Let the victim know that they have options.

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Monday, 4 November 2013

SELF HARM AWARENESS

WHAT IS SELF HARM

Self harm is the deliberate yet non-suicidal injury to one’s body tissues e.g. self- injury,  self- poisoning or any harm done to the body but without intention of suicide.

WHY WOULD SOMEONE SELF HARM


Self harm is used by self harming individuals as a way to deal with and/or express deep distress and emotional pain even though the relief achieved is only temporal.


WHAT CAUSES SELF HARM

Some causes of self harm are:
Psychological factors
Self - punishment to relieve guilt
Mental illness
Genetically inherited
Drugs and alcohol
To stop numb feeling
Anxiety
Depression
A plea for help
To feel in control
Anger
Expression Etc.

WHY TREAT SELF HARM


  •  Self harm offers a relief and a way of expressing the pain the self-harmer is dealing with so why should it be treated? It should be treated because;
  • The solution is temporal. The self-harmer will need to indulge in self-harming again and again each time the stressors present themselves.
  • Self harming may lead to long term problems.
  • It may cause body infections.
  • It becomes addictive.
  • It becomes compulsive behavior.
  • Stops you from learning effective and healthy strategies of dealing with stress or pain.
  • Causes body trauma.


Do you self harm? Do you know someone who does? Then you might also like to read:
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Saturday, 26 October 2013

ACCEPTING YOUR BODY vs BODY IMAGE

WHAT IS BODY IMAGE
Body image is a term which may refer to the perception a person has towards his or her own physical appearance.

Our body image could be influenced by
Personality
Peer groups
Societal or cultural “standards
Personal experience Etc.

Image courtesy : Dove Women.

HOW BODY IMAGE AFFECTS US
Body image:
  • Has potential to make us feel bad or good about ourselves and the people around us
  • Affects how we relate to others
  • Affects our confidence levels
  • Affects our self esteem
  • Affects the way we see ourselves even though that is not how others see us Etc.

EFFECTS OF POOR SELF IMAGE
Having a poor self image of can lead to:
•    Being unhappy with the way body looks which leads to overall unhappiness and/or depression.
•     Being judgmental of other peoples bodies.
•     Cosmetic surgery
•     Eating disorders
•     Drugs abuse to feel better about ourselves
•     Alcoholism
•    Being critical of the body such that it affects our lifestyles and relationships with others Etc.

BODY DISMORPHIC DISORDER
This is a mental illness in which a subject is overtly obsessed and preoccupied with their appearance and body image in an effort to make it perfect. This can be caused by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors.

ACCEPTING YOUR BODY
  qLove the body you are in regardless of what the media, your environment or peers may say or even what you think.
qDo not compare yourself with others.
qBe yourself and don’t try to e someone you are not.
qOverlook your flaws and focus on beautiful things about you; if you cant, ask someone you trust to tell you.
qRemember that drugs and alcohol have potential to wear down your skin and alter your body.
qAccept that you are unique and real.
qHang out with people who do not ridicule what your body looks like.
qSeek therapy if you feel you cannot accept your body.
qEat a balanced meal and avoid unhealthy diets.
qIf you suffer from bulimia or anorexia, seek the help of a therapist.
qLearn about your body and how it works.

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Friday, 18 October 2013

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE A PREGNANT TEEN

WHAT IS TEENAGE PREGNANCY?
Teenage pregnancy is when a girl below 20 years of age becomes pregnant. This happens when they indulge in sexual intercourse willingly or not, for the first time or just on a frequent basis.

If you are a victim of rape, it is important to report the crime and take birth control pills immediately in order to avoid any unwanted pregnancy. In some countries birth control pills can be bought over the counter or given at the hospital. Do not put off these measures as it could affect you in the future.


RISKS OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Many teenagers do not plan to be pregnant but it does happen as many are indulging in premature sex. As teenage pregnancy is usually unplanned for, many teenagers do not know much about it. So what are the risks of teenage pregnancy? Teenage pregnancy:

  • The girls body may not be ready to carry the child.
  • Increases the chance of dropping out of school.
  • Teen mothers are more likely to end up as single parents than older mothers.
  • Makes teen mothers more likely to get depressed.
  • Increase in the risk of pregnancy related high blood pressure and other complications.
  • Risky for babies health with chances of premature birth and/or low birth weight.
  • Baby is at risk of birth defects if proper care is not taken by teen mother.
  • May lead to a lower standard of living for mother and child.
  • Is associated with higher alcoholism, drug abuse, lower education and reduced earning potential.
  • A lost youth and the beginning of a new lifestyle.
  • In some societies, teenage pregnancy can lead to alienation of the teen mother.
  • Loss of family and friends in that they may regard the teen mother to be a bad influence or just too embarrassed.
  • Potential lack in skills in managing pregnancy and motherhood.
  • Teen pregnancy can affect younger siblings in that they may be more likely to engage in premature sex.


HOW TO PREVENT TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Are you a sexually active teenager? Here is how to prevent teen pregnancy. 

  • The most effective way to avoid pregnancy is by abstinence, which means not having sex.
  • Taking contraceptives such as birth control pills and using condoms during sex can help prevent pregnancy and also the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
  • Keep in mind also that contraceptives are not 100% effective. Some work better than others so learn about the different options and use the best one.
  • Do not have sex just because your peers are having sex.
  • Learn effective steps and methods to prevent pregnancy.


WHAT  TO DO IF YOU ARE A PREGNANT TEEN
Are you a teenage girl and just found out you are pregnant? Here are some tips you should follow:

  1. Start by thinking about your options and the consequences of those options. Will you abort? Keep the baby? Give the baby up for adoption? Joint parenthood? Choose what works best for you and your baby.
  2. Tell the man responsible for the pregnancy and ask his opinion and support towards the baby. If the babies father does not want to take responsibility, tell his parents or friends. You should not go through this alone. If you do not know the child's father, still take the next steps.
  3. Tell your parents about your pregnancy and about the person responsible for it, if necessary.
  4. Find the prenatal clinic near you and getting informed about the medical prices if necessary. Attend your clinic regularly during your pregnancy.
  5. Start to earn money and save it. This money will help you during the pregnancy, after the baby comes and also if need be, to find a new home.
  6. If you cannot earn enough money, seek help from your government on options available for young mothers.
  7. Slowly start to buy the needs for the baby so that you would not have to buy everything at once when the baby is born.
  8. Take extra care of your body by exercising and eating a balanced meal everyday. This will benefit your health and that of the baby.
  9. If you feel neglected, alone or depressed, seek support from either trusted friends, your family or get in a support group online.
  10. Plan for your future and remain hopeful about it, work towards your goals regardless of your choice to abort, keep the baby, give the baby up for adoption or joint parenthood.


Other steps you should take: 

  • Avoid smoking, alcohol or drugs.
  • Use a condom when having sex in order to avoid getting sexually transmitted infections that can harm you and your baby.
  • Get tested for HIV or any other STIs to improve your health and that of your baby.
  • Go to the prenatal clinic for care.
  • Take prenatal health vitamins to avoid birth defects.

Teenage pregnancy is a safety risk not only to the teenage mother but also to the unborn child. It is important for teenagers to avoid pregnancy but if and when a teenager falls pregnant must take extra care in order to protect their health and future as well as that of the unborn child.

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Monday, 14 October 2013

11 FACTS ABOUT SEX YOU NEED TO KNOW

Image Courtesy : healthmeup.com
WHAT IS SEX?
Sex is having carnal knowledge or intercourse between at least two beings.

WHEN IS SEX A BAD THING?
Overall, sex is a good and healthy activity. However sex can be bad in some instance of:
• Rape (this can also happen in intimate relationships)
• Premature sex (having sex when you are not prepared    physically, emotionally or psychologically whether you were forced or not.)
Sex for the wrong reason. (Some people have sex because it is their livelihood and only way to make money. Others give sex in hope to buy love from someone. Others have sex just for the benefit of relieving stress without any consent of the other person. Some have sex because of peer pressure. etc.)


SEX FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW!

Some facts about sex that you should know whether you are having sex or not.

  1. The right age to have sex is when you are ready   physically, mentally, emotionally and most times even financially for sex and its consequences.
  2. Sex is also emotional besides physical and so should not be undertaken simply for fun.
  3. It is OK to be a VIRGIN. You only get to lose it once so it is special.
  4. Do not feel pressured to have sex by anyone. Have sex when you are ready.
  5. Sex is most fulfilling when you are in a caring and committed relationship with love, respect and trust.
  6. Sex for the wrong reasons hurts you in the end. Be realistic on what you expect from sex and your partner. Communicate those feelings.
  7. Because you have sex does not suggest that you are mature or independent.
  8. Sex should not be used as a tool to control a relationship. 
  9. Sex is only just one way of expressing love. There are many other ways to express love and having sex with someone who does not love you or even having their child will not make them love you.
  10. Unprotected sex even for the first time can lead to pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases or even HIV/AIDS. Birth control and STI protection must be used correctly to be effective. However, contraceptives are not 100% effective.
  11. Oral sex is ALSO sex and puts you at the same risk of contracting STI’s or HIV if unprotected.


Having knowledge on sex and being aware on how sex affects your life is very important in maintaining not only physical safety but also emotional safety.

What has been your experience with sex? Sound off in the comments below.

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Wednesday, 2 October 2013

5 QUALITIES OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

WHAT IS LOVE & TRUST?
Love is an intense feeling of deep affection we feel towards someone or something. And Trust is the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something.


When we love and trust someone, we open our hearts to them, allow them in our lives and this makes us vulnerable to their actions affecting us in some way, sometimes even in a ways that may lead to hurt feelings. 

Being hurt does not mean we should neglect the relationship, sometimes its a stepping stone to creating a better future. However, some relationships are not healthy and its best to work on them. 

Relationships can be between parents and a child, spouses, lovers, best-friends or even just neighbors. Here are some qualities found in a healthy relationships. 

OPENNESS AND COMMUNICATION Keeping secrets from each other can lead to hurt feelings once unveiled. If you now each others secrets, do not expose them to the outside world. Also agree to disagree in your relationship.

q RESPECT AND TRUST. It is important to respect and support one another. Believe in each other as well.

SPACE AND TIME. Avoid being too clingy or too aloof. Even though you are in a relationship, you can also be individuals acting in the best interest of one another. 

    Having SEX is also important for those married or with a partner. Make time for each other; a relationship needs nurturing and balance.

RESPONSIBILITY. Avoid the blame game and each person in the relationship should take part responsibility for the relationships growth.

IT’S NOT A JOB. Be yourself; if your relationship makes you feel tense, act fake or feel pressured it may not be so healthy. Seek counselling if you feel you are in a bad relationship. No one is the boss in a relationship, you are partners. 

Do you trust and love or are you loved and trusted? How did you gain that love and trust? What do you look for in a relationship? What do you aim to give in a relationship? 

Let us know today by leaving us a comment or send us an email at; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

Friday, 6 September 2013

HEART BREAK

WHAT IS HEART BREAK?
Heart break or a broken heart is used to describe intense emotional pain or suffering one can feel.

CAUSES OF HEARTBREAK
The main cause of heart break is after losing a loved one either through:
Death
Physical separation
Divorce
Break up
Romantic rejection
Losing an investment worked hard on
Betrayal Etc.

EFFECTS OF HEART BREAK
Heart break is as intense as physical pain and can sometimes lead to:
Heart attack
Fear
Intensely missing someone
Depression
Substance abuse Etc.

DEALING WITH HEART BREAK
*Allow yourself time to mourn your loss.
*Let go of expected outcomes.
*Seek counseling or therapy.
*Separate your perception from reality.
*Lean on friends, family and/or colleagues.
*Allow others to help you.
*Go on a trip.
*Stay optimistic.
*Don’t obsess over the lost loved one.
*Disconnect with their lost loves social network.
*Avoid blaming and forgive.
*Learn from it.
*Start again.


Have you ever had a heart break? How did you manage through that time? Let us know your story. Leave us a comment or send us an email: safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

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