" You are a psychotic pig! No one will ever love you. You are not worthy. The only reason I am here with you is because I have such a big heart. No one in the world can ever stand you!"
- some abusive person -
What you read in that quote is just one example of mental abuse. What was said may have not been a slash of a whip against the victim but it hurts just the same or even more.
Some victims have heard worse but just to let you know, those hurtful damaging words are not true to you nor to anyone.
No one should say such words to you nor should you say such words to anyone in any circumstance. so;
WHAT IS MENTAL ABUSE?
Mental abuse is any behavior that causes distress or mental scarring to an individual with their knowledge or not and does not involve physical abuse.
EXAMPLES OF MENTAL ABUSE
Verbal aggression, Lying, Disrespect, Blackmail, Torture, Isolation, Threats, Discrimination, Bullying, Humiliation, Condescending attitude, Emotional chaos, Domination, Sarcasm, Accusations, Degrading and Intimidation among many others.
Mental abuse is usually associated with but not limited to narcissism and bi-polar disorder.
HOW TO DEAL WITH MENTAL ABUSE
- Identify where the mental abuse is coming from in order to easily deal with it.
- Do not keep the emotions inside, write it down. Journal it.
- Create your own safety, what will u do when attacked mentally?
- Seek professional help. Go for counseling or attend some therapy.
- Break off unhealthy relationships.
- Stay positive.
- Join a support group that focuses on your problem. Online or offline.
- Remember member abuse can have similar effects as physical abuse so learn to stop it.
- Do not believe the negative words said to you if they are not helpful to building you as a person.
- It is not your fault.
- Say positive things to yourself about yourself.
- Evaluate what is being said. Learn from the useful things and throw away the negative things.
In the instance you find yourself believing what the abuser is saying. Evaluate what is being said to you and most likely you will find it is not true. For example if someone told you the words in the quote above, you can evaluate it like this:
"You are a psychotic pig!" : Wait, what? Am not a pig. Am a human being. And since am a human being, i cannot be a psychotic pig. S/he must be the one who is crazy because no normal person ever talks to a pig. LOL
"No one will ever love you." : That is statistically wrong. How would s/he know that unless they were friends with every single person on the planet... What? they are not even friends with half, or a quarter of the planet? Did they make a survey to prove that? No?!!! Gosh, this person must think they are Einstein to come up with such a prediction....
"You are not worthy." : They don't exactly work on wall street to be able to measure your worth economically. Ohh, they do work on wall street? Then they should be fired for causing the recession because they should know that human worth can never be measured.
"blah... blah.. blah... I have such a big heart." : What? Are you sure? Maybe s/he should be paying a visit to their doctor soon because literally having a "big heart" is not exactly healthy.
"No one in the world can ever stand you." : Back to statistics again. Will s/he never learn? Besides many people have stood by you and I will stand by you for one. And I also know many who are willing to stand up for what is right.
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