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14 REASONS PEOPLE STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

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By Ronke Ojeikere-ikoroh in ZAHARA Women Foundation.

People who have never been abused often wonder why a person wouldn't just leave. They don't understand that breaking up can be more complicated than it seems.
There are many reasons why both men and women stay in abusive relationships. If you have a friend in an unhealthy relationship, support them by understanding why they may choose not to leave immediately:
CONFLICTING EMOTIONS / FEAR: Fear about what will happen once they decide to leave the relationship. If the victim is threatened by their partner, family or friends, they may not feel safe leaving.BELIEVING ABUSE IS NORMAL: If the victim doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like, perhaps from growing up in an environment where abuse was common, they may not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy.EMBARRASSMENT: It's probably hard for a victim to admit they've been abused. They may feel they've done something wrong by becoming involved with…

SELF HARM AWARENESS

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WHAT IS SELF HARM Self harm is the deliberate yet non-suicidal injury to one’s body tissues e.g. self- injury,  self- poisoning or any harm done to the body but without intention of suicide.
WHY WOULD SOMEONE SELF HARM
Self harm is used by self harming individuals as a way to deal with and/or express deep distress and emotional pain even though the relief achieved is only temporal.


WHAT CAUSES SELF HARM

Some causes of self harm are: •Psychological factors •Self - punishment to relieve guilt •Mental illness •Genetically inherited •Drugs and alcohol •To stop numb feeling •Anxiety •Depression •A plea for help •To feel in control •Anger •Expression Etc.
WHY TREAT SELF HARM
 Self harm offers a relief and a way of expressing the pain the self-harmer is dealing with so why should it be treated? It should be treated because;The solution is temporal. The self-harmer will need to indulge in self-harming again and again each time the stressors present themselves.Self harming may lead to long term problems.It may c…