Sunday, 28 April 2013

WE ARE ALL BORN FREE AND EQUAL

Equality is the state of being treated especially in status, rights and opportunities regardless of your gender, race, sexual orientation, age, ability, status or anything that makes us different from others.

All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

That is the first fundamental Human Right; calling for everyone to be treated equally.


There is still a lot of discrimination in the society we live in because certain individuals do see themselves as more superior than others, or as having more rights than others and it does not matter who these people are because we too can be like that, an obstacle to equality because we can get to be more privileged than others and we would not want to cut off some of our privileges because we feel we deserve it and well, they don't. That's the first obstruction to equality. So how, if ever can we achieve equality?

  1. DEFINE EQUALITY! What does equality really mean to you? Our definition may differ but what is the definition of equality to you? That's a first step in informing about what equal is and is not to you. Compare your definitions to that of Human Rights and if they match, apply it to your daily life.
  2. ACT ON IT! If you believe everyone is equal, act like it, right? It makes no difference if you say everyone is equal but do not act like anyone is ever equal to you as you're the "supreme" being.
  3. RESPECT! If we really respected everyone then we would treat everyone equally right?
  4. EDUCATE! So you do know that you are equal and you treat everyone equally, but did you know that some people do not know they should be treated equally as they do not know their human rights? Some do but do not even believe that the Human Rights were written for them but it was. So go out there and if you see someones rights being trampled upon, tell them about their human rights and give them the power in knowledge that they deserve better treatment because they have a right to it simply because they are human.
  5. EVERYONE IS EQUAL! Yes, it needed to be said again. Everyone is indeed equal, from the man to the woman, from the boss to the floor cleaner, from the student to the teacher, from the rich to the poor, from "society's" ugly to the beautiful, from the learned to the illiterate, from the black to the white and from the able bodied to the physically challenged.  We are all equal just for the sake that we are all human.
  6. EQUALITY STARTS WITH YOU! Don't wait for someone influential to start speaking of equality, then you would join the band wagon. Speak of equality, act on equality regardless of what other people say. Equality begins with you.

I assume we are on the right track with more people being treated more equally than a decade ago because of awareness.

What do you think should be done for equality to become a reality today? Let us know your views. Leave us a comment or send us an email today; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com



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Monday, 22 April 2013

NO TO EARLY MARRIAGE

Early marriages or child marriage happen more frequently than we are willing to admit and it some places it is even legal. Child marriage is marriage of someone below 18 years of age.
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CONSEQUENCES OF EARLY MARRIAGE

What is possibly wrong with child marriage? The following are some reasons child marriage should be stopped;


  • It IS child Abuse. Child abuse is defined as the physical, emotional or sexual mistreatment of children. Child abuse is punishable by the law.
  • It leads to Teenage Pregnancies. Teenage pregnancies are risky in that they put the child born at a health risk, the mother has lower chances of surviving during child birth, may suspend the mothers education, may lead to a life crisis and/or even family crisis, increase chances of single parenting, growing up too fast and missing out on some activities that are enjoyed by peers in the same age group.
  • Education is suspended because the new "child-wife" is usually required to perform all normal wifely duties and because they lack in education may be trapped in the marriage without a means of getting out.
  • The health of the married child is at risk because firstly their bodies may not be ready physically, emotionally or even mentally for sex. They may be ignorant on proper contraception and reproductive services available.
  • Can lead to early death as teenage pregnancy is a leading cause in teenage death. Many young mothers have a problem during child delivery as their bodies may not be ready for stress that comes with child birth.
  • The child may be stuck in an abusive, non- loving marriage and may never get to reach their full potential as the woman they were supposed to be.

In urban areas many seem oblivious to the horrors of child marriage except when it is heard in the media but soon forgotten except for those striving to end it and in some rural areas child marriage may even seem the right thing to be done to a girl child.

The reality of child marriage is harsh and worse than imagined so when you hear about it, do not read, feel bad and forget about it. What you should do is read, feel their pain and act on it. Search for organisations working against child marriage and donate. Go ahead and spend a summer volunteering in a program sensitizing on child marriage. Do research and come up with solutions to the problem of child marriage. Pass on the information. Do not be a spectator and get into action. Spare a child a lifetime of horror and imprisonment in a marriage that was not of their freewill.

No one decided where they were born and neither did these girls, they could have been us and we could have been they. We would have loved if they helped give us the life we never knew we could have and so we should do the same!

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Monday, 15 April 2013

NO CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Today April 14th 2013 marks the Innocence Revolution, a day aimed at ending child sexual abuse through awareness worldwide. People are standing up to say NO to child sexual abuse. Our children's innocence is worth protecting. Raising awareness on child sexual abuse should be something we do everyday for the sake of our generations.

WHAT IS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE?

Child sexual abuse is exposing or subjecting a child from 0 - 14 years old to sexual contact, activity or behavior. 

Sexual abuse sometimes continues or starts in adulthood. Most perpetrators have been found to be people who were close to the victims or within their social circles. Protect your child and your neighbors child today!


WHAT DOES CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE DO TO A CHILD?
Child sexual abuse has NO positive effects. Child sexual abuse can lead to;

  • Inappropriate sexual behavior
  • Mental problems
  • Behavioral Problems
  • Depression
  • Psychological problems
  • More sexual abuse through revictimization
  • Fear and anxiety towards the opposite sex
  • Sexually transmitted diseases
Nothing good Ok! The list goes on of the effects of child sexual abuse. Be an advocate for change whether you have a child or not, female or male, young or old, together we can stop child sexual abuse. First we have to identify it!



IDENTIFYING CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

How can you know if a child is being sexually abused? Be sure to look out for physical and behavioral signs. Watch out also for any behavioral signs or habits from the possible molester.

Some signs and effects of child sexual abuse are;

  • Trauma to sensitive body parts such as bloody or bruised genitals.
  • Rectal bleeding or discharge.
  • Difficulty in walking, sitting, urinating, bowel movements or swallowing.
  • Not playing as normally as children would and staying aloof.
  • Fear of being left alone or of being with a particular person.
  • Unusual interest in a particular person.
  • Irritability.
  • Regression to childhood behaviors such as thumb sucking, bed wetting or excessive crying.
  • Delinquent behavior.
  • Lack of concentration.
  • Sudden extreme change in behavior.
  • Self destructive behavior.
  • Performing sexual acts such as intercourse or masturbation.
  • Inappropriate ways of expressing affection.

The signs are many, trust your instincts and do not disregard any hunch that sexual abuse is happening. Investigate until you are sure if there is child sexual abuse or not.  





EDUCATE - Teach every child basic sexual education, identifying their private parts as they are called and teaching them on who can and who cannot touch them. Let them know they can say "My body is mine" body is their own and they can say NO if they do not feel comfortable with any kind of touch.

BE ON THE LOOK - If you suspect someone as a molester, do not rub it off. They may be the smart dressed neighbor or the ever-Lord loving man, it may even be a woman. If you suspect abuse, investigate it.

REPORT - Report any sexual abuse you may have experienced, witness or suspect. Stand your ground and do not give the molester a chance to hurt another one. Report all child abuse to the police or child protection services in your area. You could also seek the help or counsel of an organisation near you to help you face the problem. Do not be afraid of the molester, let the molester be afraid of you.

COUNSELLING - Take charge and follow up on counselling, should it be for yourself or the victim of abuse. Stopping the abuse is not enough, help has to continue in order for the child to heal or if you were the victim, seek counselling so that the child within you can heal as well. Continual support is necessary so don't just stop after the molester is caught because the battle does not end there.

MEDICAL ATTENTION - More than just counselling, victims of any kind of sexual abuse ought to seek out medical attention for any injuries suffered after the abuse.

A VICTIM IS A VICTIM - Never blame a victim or try to suggest the victim was responsible for the abuse. A victim is a victim and NOT responsible for what happened to them. Do not disregard someone as a victim because of their sex, race or background. Each victim should receive equal and fair attention or support.



What do you know about child sexual abuse? Have you survived child sexual abuse? Have you saved someone from child sexual abuse? Did you stand up against the molester and hand him over to the authorities? Let us know your story, advice or suggestionsor anything you would like to add on this article on how to rid the world of child sexual abuse. Let us take a stand together today. Leave a comment or send us an email; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com


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Monday, 8 April 2013

YES TO PRIVACY



WHAT IS PRIVACY?
Privacy is the state or condition of being free from being observed or disturbed by other people. It is also freedom from public attention.

TYPES OF PRIVACY
There are many forms of privacy we can associate ourselves to such as;

BODY PRIVACY
This is the privacy of the bodies private parts.

TERRITORY PRIVACY
This is privacy of the places that we believe are our territory and we do not want anyone to cross.

COMMUNICATIONS PRIVACY
This is the privacy we want to keep such as in the messages we send that we do not want other people to see.

INFORMATION PRIVACY
This is privacy in terms to what information we want to share with others about ourselves such as where our address or phone numbers et cetera. 

DEFENSIVE PRIVACY
Protecting information about you that makes you feel unsafe, vulnerable or at risk.

HUMAN RIGHTS PRIVACY
Our privacy and the way our government has a right to use it for security purposes and more.

PERSONAL PRIVACY
The kind of privacy in which we want to keep to ourselves.

CONTEXTUAL PRIVACY
Privacy in terms of context, our relations with others, our beliefs and our being different.

ONLINE PRIVACY
This is keeping your online information private so that it is not easily accessible to the entire world. It includes privacy on social networks, when shopping online which is also credit card information privacy and all forms of privacy related to the internet.

OFFLINE PRIVACY
All forms of privacy that does not involve internet.


PRIVACY AND SAFETY
Privacy and safety should go hand in hand, with one as important as the next. Safety and privacy are correlated and in most cases do not exist independently. Maintain your privacy and do not allow anyone to get your privacy from you because privacy is your fundamental Human Right.


HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR PRIVACY


  • Take care that you keep anything with your private information such as your diary, passport, bank book and all your private property is a safe secure place which only you or a few people close to you know about.
  • Set your limits. Know how much you wants others to know about you, who you want to know about you and the limit of their relationship with you.
  • Know who your friends are. Some people just like to share gossip so if you have a private matter you are sharing with someone you trust, let them know that it is private and you would like if they respected your privacy.
  • Limit access to your online information by applying privacy settings.
  • Do not add people you do not know as friends to your social networking sites.
  • Always sign out from your online profiles, be it social network, internet banking or even game sites and even give your computer or phone a unique password for increased privacy and security.
  • Et cetera.

Is privacy important to you? What do you do to maintain your privacy? Do you respect other peoples privacy by perhaps minding your own business and not meddling with their affairs or even gossiping? Let us know your viewpoint on privacy and how it has affected your life. Leave us a comment or email us today; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com


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