Tuesday, 28 May 2013

PARTNERS

These are the organisations we partner with as well as some that we just LOVE.


BUUMBALAMBO FOUNDATION ZAMBIA

Buumbalambo foundation is a non profit organisation based in Zambia working to eradicate illiteracy starting with children. Their goal is to expand education awareness activities towards progressive reduction of child illiteracy. 

Website and Buumbalambo Foundation Facebook Page.




BLACK AND WHITE GERMANY & GHANA

Black and White organisation in Ghana is an expansion of the German organisation to Africa. The initiative Black and White Organisation wants to create is a network for friendship called BawNetschool where schools in Africa get connected to schools in Europe.

Website and Blog.




WOMEN TALK... LITTLE GIRLS LISTEN AMERICA

Women Talk... Little Girls Listen, which one are you? WTLGL is an organisation of a growing group of strong women and the smart men that support them. Join WTLGL if you are looking for advice, support or just want to help the community you are in.

Website  Blog   WTLGL Facebook




THE INNOCENCE REVOLUTION AMERICA

The Innocence revolution is an organisation working to unite and mobilize societies worldwide to end child sexual abuse. Join in the stand to protect the innocence of our children and the innocence of our future generation.



Website and The Innocence Revolution Facebook Group



Friday, 24 May 2013

CONTACT US


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Monday, 20 May 2013

HOW TO LIVE WITH AN ABUSIVE PERSON


What is abuse?
Abuse is the cruel or violent treatment of a person regularly or repeatedly.

How to cope with an abusive person.
When you are living with an abusive person, it is best
to understand;

1. What type of abuse is it? Emotional, verbal, physical, sexual or any form of abuse.

2. Who is the abuse targeted to? Is it only to you, or it is also the same behavior to other people.

3. What causes the abuse? It is because of it is a personality trait or because of an addiction to maybe drugs and alcohol or is it because of someones dislike or envy of you, is it because they think you are intruding in their life or they do not like your behavior or is the behavior learned, maybe from the parents or peers?

4. Solve the underlying problem. Talk to the person about why they treat you that way. Do not be harsh or interrupt when they are talking. If they do not want to tell you, encourage them by suggesting an answer e.g does me watching the tv make you angry?, do not start by blaming them as this will only cause them to be defensive which can lead to further abuse, Forgive them for all they have done and ask to start again, do not remind them of there bad deed.

5. Have patience, people do change especially if they want to but they cannot change overnight. If they agree to stop the abuse, be patient and correct them lovingly. Avoid harsh reactions. Advise them to seek counselling or therapy as well. 

6. Encourage them if they accept to. If they don't, ask if they can make themselves better and if so what is their plan of action.

6. Stay away from them, even if you are close together, give them their space so that they will have no one to abuse or lash out to.

7. Have a safety plan. What will you do to prevent or avoid or be safest when the abuse is imminent? Who will you call? Do you have a back up plan for you or the other abused.

8. If the abuse gets more serious or is life threatening e.g child sexual abuse, incest, rape, battering, Seek help IMMEDIATELY for yourself or the abused and get out of that situation and as far away as you can from the abuser.

Have you lived with an abusive person before? Are you living with an abusive person? What did you do or what do you do to cope with it? Tell us your side of the story.
Leave us a comment or email us today.

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Monday, 6 May 2013

THERE IS HELP FOR YOU!

Every one has a right to seek help when in need. The biggest dilemma however is, where to seek help and whether you will actually be helped when you find that potential help. So where should we go to seek help in general?



WHERE TO SEEK HELP?????

  • FAMILY. Well, generally family should be the first place we would seek help unless we are seeking help for them or  from them.
  • FRIENDS. Some friends help out even more than family and if you have such a friend, hold on to them, appreciate them and even though friends help each other do not be over-dependent without recognizing the other persons needs. And be careful on this one, not everyone who says they are your friend have best intentions for you. Mentors may see ahead on what you did not see so it is best to have a mentor who leads you in the right path.
  • MENTOR. A mentor is an adviser  someone who has gone ahead down the road and is helping to show you which way to go.
  • PROFESSIONALS. This includes health professionals, organisations, educators, counselors and advisers, the police and generally any institution that exists to offer help.
  • GOVERNMENT. The government is the people and the people is the government. When you have a problem, its the responsibility the government to take care of you.
  • RELIGION. Religion has helped a lot of people cope with their lives. Other's choose that path, others do not. It is up to you after all to choose where to seek help and finding a religion has relieved many of their burdens.
  • WITHIN. It is impossible to get outside help if you are not willing to help yourself from inside. his is searching within yourself to find a solution to your problem. The biggest help is the one you can give yourself. Take the first step to seek help. Be strong and courageous, you shall get through it. 



ADVICE ON SEEKING HELP

It has been said, "a problem shared is a problem solved." Like wise, many people who have sought help have found it. It is also important to have realistic expectations when seeking help;  Realistic? How?


  • KNOW WHO TO ASK FOR HELP. Knowing who you need to help you is important and can save you a lot of time, frustration or even disappointment. Asking the right people is a first step to getting your problem solved.
  • RELIABILITY CHECK. Focus on past events. Did the people who you are hoping to seek help from show responsibility? If not, it is unlikely they would now. Seek help from reliable persons.
  • MAKE IT CLEAR WHAT YOU NEED.  Sometimes words can be misinterpreted and so in order not to get frustrated by the result always tell the helper what you expect they would do to help you.
  • LISTEN. When stressed by a problem we are trying to explain and the person we want to help us does not seem on the same page with us, we could easily get frustrated and storm off. We should understand that each person has their views, we should listen to their views concerning us and not block out what they are saying if it is said in good faith. Listen and even if it is different from your plan, see it there is a possibility it could work out if its for your good and does not require some malpractice like bribe or a compromise in morals.
  • PATIENCE. Say you call a friend or a professional because you seriously need help at that precise moment and assume they do not pick up. It could be really frustrating but it does conclude they do not want to help you. If they are truly your friend or a professional then they do want to help you. And they will even if they may be unavailable at the moment due to other factors.
  • TRY AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN. There are always people willing to help you. Some of them you may know.. Others you may not. But always search for help until you find it. Once your problem is solved, you will be glad you sought help.
  • HAVE A SAFETY PLAN. When faced with a problem, have a plan set out to get you out of the problem. Plan carefully, seek counsel and advice on or offline on how to make your safety plan.


When you needed help what did you do? Have you helped anyone before? Let us know by leaving a comment or email us today; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

* Special Thanks to Brenda Yuen for advising us on some more tips. We appreciate your support.


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