Thursday, 25 July 2013

HAVE A BALANCED SELF ESTEEM

        WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?

Self-esteem describes a persons overall evaluation of their self-worth and/or personal value. 


         HOW DOES SELF ESTEEM AFFECT OUR LIVES?

Self- esteem has the potential to affect the way we live our life.

Basically, self esteem affects our social life, relationships, trust, work life, confidence in ourselves, trying new things, appreciating ourselves as we are and getting what we want or even need among other things.



TYPES OF SELF ESTEEM

The types of self-esteem are;

High self-esteem: Characterized by high confidence and no fear in trying things among others. 

Some effects of high self esteem are; Optimism,  positive self image, taking responsibility for actions, no fear of rejection among others.

Low self-esteem: Characterized by low confidence and a paralyzing fear of criticism or denial among others. 

Some effects of low self esteem are; pessimism, fear of being ridiculed, dependence on others, negative self image, mistrust among others.

Self- esteem is not static and can change.



THE IDEAL SELF ESTEEM 

It is important to have a balanced self esteem; this refers to a self esteem that is neither too high or too low.

A very high self esteem can lead to over powering behavior which can make others feel inferior. This is the kind of esteem that can be associated with bullies or most abusers. 'Pushing your way to get what you want despite the negative effect it may have on others.'

However, having a low self esteem can lead to being trampled on, being taken advantage of and even being abused among others. 'Being the doormat.'

The ideal self esteem is having a balanced esteem which is shown with confidence, knowing what is right and doing it regardless of others, understanding the self esteem of others and helping give them confidence because you are already confident. 

Balanced self esteem is neither high nor low but its the middle one.



HOW TO IMPROVE & HAVE A BALANCED ESTEEM


  • Think positive.
  • Do what you are good at. Invest time in your talents.
  • Try something new
  • Create a good self-image of yourself.
  • Celebrate your small achievements.
  • Seek therapy if you cannot build self-esteem by yourself.
  • Set realistic goals
  • Avoid Perfectionism
  • Have fun
  • Exercise
  • Build a positive self –image by cultivating positive and empowering thoughts of yourself.


       Do you have a high self esteem, how has it affected you? Do you have a low self esteem? Are you doing anything to improve it? Let us know your story by leaving us a comment below or email us today; safetyfirstforgirls@aol.com

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Sunday, 14 July 2013

Substance Abuse and It's Effects

WHAT IS SUBSTANCE ABUSE?
Substance abuse is overindulgence or dependence on an addictive substance especially alcohol and drugs. 

CAUSES OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE
Some causes of substance abuse could  be caused by family history, peer groups, poor social coping skills, isolation and social environment among other things.

EFFECTS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE

  • Substance abuse can lead to 
  • physical trauma 
  • intoxication that alters judgment, perception, attention and/ or physical control
  • depression, 
  • emotional imbalance, 
  • accidents, 
  • Death usually by overdose. 


HOW TO BE FREE OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE

  • Be willing to end your addiction.
  • Learn of the dangers associated with substance abuse.
  • Seek professional help.
  • Seek counselling to remove underlying problems.
  • Find a support group to help you in your journey to an addiction free life.
  • Have a mentor. Someone who was once an addict but is now living  free from their addiction.
  • Change or adapt your environment.
  • Find a new lease in life e.g. new hobby, religion or a pet.
  • Plan how to handle the withdraw symptoms.
  • Stop your addiction one step at a time. It is a healing process that does not happen overnight.
  • Prevent relapse by learning resistance skills that are effective for you.

Have you recently broke free from substance abuse? Be it drug abuse, alcoholism or any other? How did you do it? Do you live with a substance abuser? Tell us your story today.

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Saturday, 6 July 2013

Depression and How to Face It

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?
Depression is a condition of mental disturbance, typically with lack of energy and difficulty in maintaining concentration or interest in life. 

EFFECTS OF DEPRESSION
Depression affects how a person behaves, thinks or feels and is associated with feelings of sadness that make it difficult to get through a normal daily routine.
It is usually but not always associated with bi-polar disorder which is a mood disorder characterized by symptoms of mania and depression.
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CAUSES OF DEPRESSION
It is caused by a combination of psychological, biological, hereditary, personality, life situation, diet deficiency, mental stress and social factors. Some side effects are; Emotional and physical disability, Decreased productivity, Drug alcohol addiction, Suicidal thoughts, Low self esteem, Hopelessness, Insomnia, Anxiety disorder etc.

FIGHTING DEPRESSION
We need to fight depression because it negatively affects our well being. We can fight depression when we;

  • Seek healthcare
  • Psychotherapy
  • Identify and focus on activities that make you feel better
  • Think positive
  • Get more sunshine
  • Seek support from trusted friends and family
  • Be sociable despite how you feel (someone else may be going through the same thing as you)
  • Eat plenty of vitamins and proteins in a healthy balanced diet
  • Do not keep to yourself in your sadness.
  • Do something new e.g. Keep a pet
  • Avoid exposure to what is stressing you
  • Meditate on what makes you happy
  • Get surrounded by happiness
  • Change stressful conditions
  • Ask for help
  • Live a healthier lifestyle
  • Talk about it.

Have you been experiencing depression lately? What do you do to cope? Share your experience today.

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