Saturday, 26 October 2013

ACCEPTING YOUR BODY vs BODY IMAGE

WHAT IS BODY IMAGE
Body image is a term which may refer to the perception a person has towards his or her own physical appearance.

Our body image could be influenced by
Personality
Peer groups
Societal or cultural “standards
Personal experience Etc.

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HOW BODY IMAGE AFFECTS US
Body image:
  • Has potential to make us feel bad or good about ourselves and the people around us
  • Affects how we relate to others
  • Affects our confidence levels
  • Affects our self esteem
  • Affects the way we see ourselves even though that is not how others see us Etc.

EFFECTS OF POOR SELF IMAGE
Having a poor self image of can lead to:
•    Being unhappy with the way body looks which leads to overall unhappiness and/or depression.
•     Being judgmental of other peoples bodies.
•     Cosmetic surgery
•     Eating disorders
•     Drugs abuse to feel better about ourselves
•     Alcoholism
•    Being critical of the body such that it affects our lifestyles and relationships with others Etc.

BODY DISMORPHIC DISORDER
This is a mental illness in which a subject is overtly obsessed and preoccupied with their appearance and body image in an effort to make it perfect. This can be caused by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors.

ACCEPTING YOUR BODY
  qLove the body you are in regardless of what the media, your environment or peers may say or even what you think.
qDo not compare yourself with others.
qBe yourself and don’t try to e someone you are not.
qOverlook your flaws and focus on beautiful things about you; if you cant, ask someone you trust to tell you.
qRemember that drugs and alcohol have potential to wear down your skin and alter your body.
qAccept that you are unique and real.
qHang out with people who do not ridicule what your body looks like.
qSeek therapy if you feel you cannot accept your body.
qEat a balanced meal and avoid unhealthy diets.
qIf you suffer from bulimia or anorexia, seek the help of a therapist.
qLearn about your body and how it works.

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Friday, 18 October 2013

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE A PREGNANT TEEN

WHAT IS TEENAGE PREGNANCY?
Teenage pregnancy is when a girl below 20 years of age becomes pregnant. This happens when they indulge in sexual intercourse willingly or not, for the first time or just on a frequent basis.

If you are a victim of rape, it is important to report the crime and take birth control pills immediately in order to avoid any unwanted pregnancy. In some countries birth control pills can be bought over the counter or given at the hospital. Do not put off these measures as it could affect you in the future.


RISKS OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Many teenagers do not plan to be pregnant but it does happen as many are indulging in premature sex. As teenage pregnancy is usually unplanned for, many teenagers do not know much about it. So what are the risks of teenage pregnancy? Teenage pregnancy:

  • The girls body may not be ready to carry the child.
  • Increases the chance of dropping out of school.
  • Teen mothers are more likely to end up as single parents than older mothers.
  • Makes teen mothers more likely to get depressed.
  • Increase in the risk of pregnancy related high blood pressure and other complications.
  • Risky for babies health with chances of premature birth and/or low birth weight.
  • Baby is at risk of birth defects if proper care is not taken by teen mother.
  • May lead to a lower standard of living for mother and child.
  • Is associated with higher alcoholism, drug abuse, lower education and reduced earning potential.
  • A lost youth and the beginning of a new lifestyle.
  • In some societies, teenage pregnancy can lead to alienation of the teen mother.
  • Loss of family and friends in that they may regard the teen mother to be a bad influence or just too embarrassed.
  • Potential lack in skills in managing pregnancy and motherhood.
  • Teen pregnancy can affect younger siblings in that they may be more likely to engage in premature sex.


HOW TO PREVENT TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Are you a sexually active teenager? Here is how to prevent teen pregnancy. 

  • The most effective way to avoid pregnancy is by abstinence, which means not having sex.
  • Taking contraceptives such as birth control pills and using condoms during sex can help prevent pregnancy and also the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
  • Keep in mind also that contraceptives are not 100% effective. Some work better than others so learn about the different options and use the best one.
  • Do not have sex just because your peers are having sex.
  • Learn effective steps and methods to prevent pregnancy.


WHAT  TO DO IF YOU ARE A PREGNANT TEEN
Are you a teenage girl and just found out you are pregnant? Here are some tips you should follow:

  1. Start by thinking about your options and the consequences of those options. Will you abort? Keep the baby? Give the baby up for adoption? Joint parenthood? Choose what works best for you and your baby.
  2. Tell the man responsible for the pregnancy and ask his opinion and support towards the baby. If the babies father does not want to take responsibility, tell his parents or friends. You should not go through this alone. If you do not know the child's father, still take the next steps.
  3. Tell your parents about your pregnancy and about the person responsible for it, if necessary.
  4. Find the prenatal clinic near you and getting informed about the medical prices if necessary. Attend your clinic regularly during your pregnancy.
  5. Start to earn money and save it. This money will help you during the pregnancy, after the baby comes and also if need be, to find a new home.
  6. If you cannot earn enough money, seek help from your government on options available for young mothers.
  7. Slowly start to buy the needs for the baby so that you would not have to buy everything at once when the baby is born.
  8. Take extra care of your body by exercising and eating a balanced meal everyday. This will benefit your health and that of the baby.
  9. If you feel neglected, alone or depressed, seek support from either trusted friends, your family or get in a support group online.
  10. Plan for your future and remain hopeful about it, work towards your goals regardless of your choice to abort, keep the baby, give the baby up for adoption or joint parenthood.


Other steps you should take: 

  • Avoid smoking, alcohol or drugs.
  • Use a condom when having sex in order to avoid getting sexually transmitted infections that can harm you and your baby.
  • Get tested for HIV or any other STIs to improve your health and that of your baby.
  • Go to the prenatal clinic for care.
  • Take prenatal health vitamins to avoid birth defects.

Teenage pregnancy is a safety risk not only to the teenage mother but also to the unborn child. It is important for teenagers to avoid pregnancy but if and when a teenager falls pregnant must take extra care in order to protect their health and future as well as that of the unborn child.

You may also like to read: 
HOW TO AVOID TEENAGE PREGNANCY








Monday, 14 October 2013

11 FACTS ABOUT SEX YOU NEED TO KNOW

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WHAT IS SEX?
Sex is having carnal knowledge or intercourse between at least two beings.

WHEN IS SEX A BAD THING?
Overall, sex is a good and healthy activity. However sex can be bad in some instance of:
• Rape (this can also happen in intimate relationships)
• Premature sex (having sex when you are not prepared    physically, emotionally or psychologically whether you were forced or not.)
Sex for the wrong reason. (Some people have sex because it is their livelihood and only way to make money. Others give sex in hope to buy love from someone. Others have sex just for the benefit of relieving stress without any consent of the other person. Some have sex because of peer pressure. etc.)


SEX FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW!

Some facts about sex that you should know whether you are having sex or not.

  1. The right age to have sex is when you are ready   physically, mentally, emotionally and most times even financially for sex and its consequences.
  2. Sex is also emotional besides physical and so should not be undertaken simply for fun.
  3. It is OK to be a VIRGIN. You only get to lose it once so it is special.
  4. Do not feel pressured to have sex by anyone. Have sex when you are ready.
  5. Sex is most fulfilling when you are in a caring and committed relationship with love, respect and trust.
  6. Sex for the wrong reasons hurts you in the end. Be realistic on what you expect from sex and your partner. Communicate those feelings.
  7. Because you have sex does not suggest that you are mature or independent.
  8. Sex should not be used as a tool to control a relationship. 
  9. Sex is only just one way of expressing love. There are many other ways to express love and having sex with someone who does not love you or even having their child will not make them love you.
  10. Unprotected sex even for the first time can lead to pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases or even HIV/AIDS. Birth control and STI protection must be used correctly to be effective. However, contraceptives are not 100% effective.
  11. Oral sex is ALSO sex and puts you at the same risk of contracting STI’s or HIV if unprotected.


Having knowledge on sex and being aware on how sex affects your life is very important in maintaining not only physical safety but also emotional safety.

What has been your experience with sex? Sound off in the comments below.

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15 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SEX 

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THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SEX


Wednesday, 2 October 2013

5 QUALITIES OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

WHAT IS LOVE & TRUST?
Love is an intense feeling of deep affection we feel towards someone or something. And Trust is the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something.


When we love and trust someone, we open our hearts to them, allow them in our lives and this makes us vulnerable to their actions affecting us in some way, sometimes even in a ways that may lead to hurt feelings. 

Being hurt does not mean we should neglect the relationship, sometimes its a stepping stone to creating a better future. However, some relationships are not healthy and its best to work on them. 

Relationships can be between parents and a child, spouses, lovers, best-friends or even just neighbors. Here are some qualities found in a healthy relationships. 

OPENNESS AND COMMUNICATION Keeping secrets from each other can lead to hurt feelings once unveiled. If you now each others secrets, do not expose them to the outside world. Also agree to disagree in your relationship.

q RESPECT AND TRUST. It is important to respect and support one another. Believe in each other as well.

SPACE AND TIME. Avoid being too clingy or too aloof. Even though you are in a relationship, you can also be individuals acting in the best interest of one another. 

    Having SEX is also important for those married or with a partner. Make time for each other; a relationship needs nurturing and balance.

RESPONSIBILITY. Avoid the blame game and each person in the relationship should take part responsibility for the relationships growth.

IT’S NOT A JOB. Be yourself; if your relationship makes you feel tense, act fake or feel pressured it may not be so healthy. Seek counselling if you feel you are in a bad relationship. No one is the boss in a relationship, you are partners. 

Do you trust and love or are you loved and trusted? How did you gain that love and trust? What do you look for in a relationship? What do you aim to give in a relationship? 

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