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If a girl wants to volunteer

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by Hadassah Louis






At SAFIGI Outreach Foundation, we believe that anyone can make a difference no matter who you are, where you come from or what your qualifications are.

It is for this reason that we create volunteer opportunities that anyone can do, at a maximal time and in a way that will be beneficial in raising awareness on key causes, spreading safety education lesson plans and also transforming societies to development for each and every member - all through volunteerism.

You can join us today. Contact us for more details on how you can volunteer.

If a girl wants a support group

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Video by Sontia Levy, Founder of Women Talk... Little Girls Listen




'Man is not an island' is a common saying. Another common African proverb states that 'If I go alone, I go faster, if we go together, I reach further.'


The human being is a social creature, therefore we need each other to survive, and it is true, there is strength in numbers. In modern day, technology has made it easier to connect. This, however, is not enough as issues such as loneliness, depression and Social anxiety, to name just a few, continues to afflict even the average person.

Having a support group can help elevate mental illness, suicidal thoughts, loneliness and more, and the support group can provide unity, safety, support, advice and love, to name a few.

So where and how do you find a support group?

1. Join a club with people who enjoy the same activities as you.

2. When online, follow Facebook pages, tumblr, or blogs that highlight your values. Connect through commenting, contributing post…

If a girl is attacked

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By Amy, SAFIGI Volunteer





An attack is a physical, emotional or mental confrontation that is aimed at causing harm to the victim. An attack can be lauched by anyone regardless of age and gender, and at any time.


If you are faced with an attack, do the following:

1. Take a Step Back
The easiest response to an attack on us is to react immediately. This is an important thing if the danger is imminent, but if there is time to think of run away - it is best to avoid the situation.


2. Understand the Attack and What the Attacker Wants
Why is the attack happening and what does the attacker aim to achieve are key points you need to know when dealing with a volatile situation in order to know the best response.


3. What Kind of Attack is It?
An attack can be physical, emotional, mental, or psychological. Understand the type of attack you are facing so that your response can be effective.


4. Defend Yourself
If the situation cannot be avoided, find a way to defend yourself. Taking some effective se…

If a girl feels unsafe

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By Claudia via UN Online Volunteering




Safety is an important element in daily life. In fact, it is so crucial to have safety that it is listed the second most needed necessity in life just after food and water, according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Safety goes beyond just taking measures to avoid incidents or accidents. Safety is a mental state as well as a way of life.

Emotional, mental, and physical health are all are integral part of being safe. What we eat, where we sleep, the relationships wenform also determine our safety level.

A lack in any of the above mentioned areas can cause us to feel unsafe. Feeling unsafe is detrimental to our wellness because it leads to fear, which can then lead to trust issues, wrong decisions or being victimized at the hands of others or circumstances.



In the above video, UN Volunteer for SAFIGI tells us what to do when we feel unsafe.


If a girl is being catcalled

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Video by Bogdan via UN Volunteers






Post written by Karin 
How to respond when men tease you (as a girl/woman) when you're minding your own business or simply walking down the street.

Imagine: You’re walking down the street. It’s a nice sunny day outside and you’re wearing your favorite dress or those cute little shorts you just bought. You feel great and you are on the way to meet your friend. You pass a group of guys and then suddenly you hear one of them say: “Look at that sexy bitch.” What is you reaction? Do you feel flattered? Do you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel disrespected?
This scenario of cat-calling is experienced pretty much by every woman at least once in her life. Some might say that women overreact by disliking and feeling uncomfortable when being cat called. But who are those people who allow themselves to call out to girls and women, and judge them?


It is never ok to cat call a girl. Once, I was walking down the street with a good friend of mine. It doesn’t matter ho…

If a girl is always jealous

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By Viona Muliru via UN Volunteers





How you ever been so jealous that everything else did not matter to you? Yes, jealousy can blind you. There are two types of jealousy. The jealousy when you feel lust for something that is not yours or envy someone because of who or what someone else is. And then there is the jealousy where you strongly want to protect what or who is yours from others.
The jealousy type which involves protecting what or who you love is healthy, but only if expressed in healthy ways. However, if you become overprotective of the one you love, it is possible that you will appear insecure and they may start to feel trapped in the relationship.
Always remember, just because you are in a relationship with someone does not mean you own them. Relationships should be mutual, where both of you want to stay in it every new day. If you have to build walls around you partner for them not to leave, then that becomes a dictatorship relationship, which is very unhealthy.
To deal with th…

If a girl has trust issues

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By Amanda via UN Volunteers




Trust is like a mirror, you can’t fix it if it’s broken, so they say. They never mention that you can easily walk over the shattered pieces even when you thought you had it all cleaned up. Yes, that is trust, once it is broken, it is not only hard to put back together but will potentially hurt you even more.
Why trust anyone at all, you may ask, it only gives someone a chance to hurt us. Yes there is a risk someone can hurt your heart but there is more than equal chance that someone can also bless your heart.
Trust is the strongest foundation any relationship can have and without trust, a healthy relationship cannot last. Human society grew to what it is today by relationship with one another and for relationships to be formed you will need to trust someone in order to relate to them no matter the type of relationship.
So what do you do if your ability to trust has been broken by disappointment, betrayal , heart break or something else? It is okay to be skeptic…

If a girl lives alone

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By Myrto, SAFIGI Volunteer




Living alone can be a great experience and rewarding on so many levels. However, if you live alone, there are some steps you need to take to make sure that your environment is safe for you. The best step to take is to remove your home address from your online profile, website or even your CV. No one needs to know where you stay unless they are an active part of your life.
Another thing is to make sure that you live in a safe neighborhood where crime rate is low. In any case, it doesn’t hurt to install an alarm system, a surveillance camera outside your home and secure the doors and windows. Always lock your doors and windows if you are going out and build a healthy relationship with your neighbors if possible so that they can help you if you have some trouble.
Do not bring strangers into your phone by any means and if someone comes to your door asking to use your phone, do not let them in, instead direct them to a public payphone nearby or lend them your ce…

If a girl feels worthless

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By Claudia via UN Volunteers



What really is the price of human life? I tell you that human life is precious. Your life is worth more than precious jewels or all the gold in the world. Do you know why? Because before you were born, you did not sign a contract to be made human. You were the only fertilized of a million others to be the human that you are.  You cannot even control your heart beat or the breath that fills your lungs this very minute.
You are the only person with your fingerprint and DNA in a world that has 7 Billion people and your life is supported by a huge ball of fire just far away and near enough for you to survive. In short you are a miracle! Everything on the earth is built to support your life.
Even after all this, it is still possible to feel worthless, unloved, a misfit and unwanted. The universe is working to support your life but it’s like the people around you do not care for you as much as the nature that is here to support your living.
In a world full of 7 Bil…

If a girl wants to be promoted at work

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By Manan via UN Volunteers




Choosing and advancing a career of your choice is a right you should exercise. Once you get a job, you should have equal opportunity to be recognized and even be promoted.
If you are working towards being recognized or promoted at work, keep this in mind; know when you want to be promoted – set a goal towards that but make sure that your goal is realistic and that you have a good plan set to get this promotion.
To be promoted at your work, you have to be at least good at it so make sure you improve your craft and do your best at what you do. Doing other people’s work for them will not get you promoted so avoid it because it distracts you from doing your own work properly.
Once you are good at your work, talk to your boss or supervisor about your intention to be promoted, without putting any pressure on them. Tell them your goals, how you are working toward your goal and what you expect your promotion to be and when. Be sure to mention how much of a salary increa…

If a girl self harms

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By Bogdan via UN Volunteers




Self harm is an issue that many teens deal with and most do it in secret. If you are a girl who self harms, this video is for you. I know, many people do not understand what self harm is or why anyone would do it. The answer is never simple.
Self harm is deliberate injury or poisoning your body but usually without the intention of suicide. Substance abuse and eating disorders are also a form of self harm. A person who is self harming usually knows what they are doing and the reason they are doing it.
The most common reasons for self harming is to cope with underlying issues such as stress, trauma, depression, emotional or sexual abuse and personality disorders among others. Self harm is used as an expression of the feelings inside, it is a channel to let out those emotions even if the method is harmful in itself. Consequences of self harm can be life threatening infections, mental disorders and addiction to name a few.
If you self harm, firstly do not judge yo…

If a girl is walking home alone

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By Kamesha via UN Volunteers





Walking alone can be refreshing, reflective and most times, necessary. Depending on where you live, walking alone is not a problem but it is always important to exercise caution especially if you are walking in lonely places, dangerous areas or at night.
By all means, avoid walking alone if it is not safe. Walking in a pair is helpful but walking in groups is much more effective. This also applies to taking taxi’s or public transport especially at night.
What you want to do when walking alone is to always be aware of your surroundings and what is going on around you. It is very difficult to be aware of your surrounding if you are listening to music, playing games on your phone or texting. Doing this takes your attention away and may make you miss important signs.
Make sure your phone is recharged and you have a close friend on speedial especially if you are walking at night. Talking on the phone with your friend or loved one, updating them on where you are can…

If a girl has an abusive boyfriend

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By Stela Koleva





To every person reading this who is in an abusive relationship, I have one word for you: Leave.
Abusive relations are not only physically, mentally and socially damaging but they also put your life at risk. Hard to believe, picture this; you come home and your partner punches you in the face because you forgot to turn off the tv. Or, you are minding your own business when your partner verbally insults you because they’ve had a terrible day. Or imagine being locked out of the house because you were a minute late.
Living in an abusive relationship is the same as living with a terrorist. You feel intimidated, threatened and you are always walking on egg shells. One minute you will be laughing together and the next instant they turn into a monster that terrifies you. You are not sure if that night you will sit by the fire together or if you will be left in the cold with silent treatment.
It is soooo confusing. Why would anyone have to put up with that? The world is full …

If a girl wants to have sex for the first time

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Video by Ruchika Sharma via UN Volunteers




Article written by Diana Huaman


This is all you need to know before and after having sex.


Sex for the first time
“Make sure it is the right person, right place and the right time” is something that I think every woman has to evaluate carefully when deciding to have sex for the first time.

Virginity is something that does not return and losing it means doing it forever so that’s why you don’t have to rush, also to avoid consequences you are not looking for (such as an unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease) and start your sex life positively.

No one can pressure you to have sex. It is a decision that you yourself should take and which must be fully convinced. Sex is not going to improve the relationship or help you “win back” your partner. Who really loves you, will NEVER press you (directly or indirectly) to do anything you're not sure.

What Happens During First Time Sex?

Sexual intercourse between two people starts with both of …

If a girl wants to abstain

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By Florence Laraiyetan via UN Volunteers




Sex is such a big deal these days. You see sex idolized in media, everywhere you look something is sexualized. It’s like the world is screaming ‘No place for virgins’ and you don’t want your friends to keep giving you that eye when they see you talking to a boy, their eyes screaming to you that ‘it’s time…’ It’s time you joined everyone in the ‘no virginity lane…’ everyone lives there anyway.
What I am here to tell you is that the choice to have sex or not, is truly yours and no one else’s. Just to let you know, you will not look any different or act any different after you have sex, the only thing that would have changed is that you will allow someone else to see the carnal you and that is the most vulnerable moment in life whether you are in a relationship or it’s just a one night stand.

Do you still need convincing? Not having sex until you are ready will save you the stress of birth control pills, worrying about STIs or STDs, worrying about if…

If a girl cannot fit in

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By Sarah Kristine via UN Volunteers






We all want to fit in. It’s a human thing. Society tells us something is wrong with us if we can’t fit in so when we fail to be part of a group, we start to believe that there is something wrong with us.
I am here to tell you this, whether you fit on or not, there is nothing wrong with you. Humans are diverse, with different characters and failure to fit in just means you may not have found the people who share the same values as you and that is okay.
So how do you cope when you can’t fit in? Firstly, don’t feel sorry for yourself. You are not a sad story and even if no one wants to hang out with you, it doesn’t mean you have to make your own company miserable. Secondly, find interesting things you can do on your own so that you can occupy your time with something useful; read a book or practice a hobby.
Don’t be afraid to make a first move. If you are in a new place, don’t be shy to say hello first. Of course there will always be people who are not fr…

If a girl has lost someone she loves

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By Amanda Arambulo via UN Volunteers





The darkest part of life is losing someone you love. I want to let you know that you shall get through this. This does not mean that you will be able to bring back your loved one or even forget the pain that came with losing them. 
It means that while they are still gone, you will grow from the experience, yes how painful it is, but it will make you see the world a lot differently. It is not something we ask for but as long as we are mortal, we will keep losing and losing but that should not mean that all is lost.
When you have lost a loved one, allow yourself to grieve, in your own way and for as long as you like. No one can ever truly understand the pain in your soul but allow others to support you in such a dark time.
It is okay to feel cheated especially if you lost your loved one at an unexpected time or departed on bad terms but never carry guilt over someone who has passed on. Instead, focus on the strong points of the relationship you had with …