Saturday, 31 January 2015

If a girl has no friends

By Diana, 61, USA via UN Volunteers

I believe every person should have at least one trustworthy friend in their life. Life is beautiful but it is even better to experience it with someone who sees through the same lens as you. It is okay to be comfortable with being alone but it is enriching to know that you have someone else other than you to count on.
If you have no friends, firstly, don’t feel bad about it and secondly, don’t blame everyone else or yourself. Friendship is a two way street and sometimes no one is to blame if no one walks your path. If you are comfortable with having no friends, embrace your independence as long as it is what keeps you happy.
If you are comfortable with being alone and yet you want someone to depend on, embrace doing things independently but never cut off other people completely. The thing about friends is being with someone or doing things for another without feeling used. If you like to be alone but sometimes want to have someone to lean on, make sure that you do not only seek this person when you feel like – that is not real friendship. Be there for others when they need you even if it means sacrificing a little bit of your privacy or freedom for them. That’s what friends are for.
However, if you hate being alone and still find that you have no friend, take some quality time to study your surroundings. Do you live in an area with people in your age group, are they the kind of friends you want and how could you make them your friend?
Don’t be afraid to make the first approach when it comes to friendship, you never know if the other person is only shy. Do not fear rejection because if the person you intended to be your friend doesn’t respond favorably, perhaps they wouldn’t have been a good friend after all.

Being a people pleaser and doing favors for others for the sake of friendship is a tricky way to make friends because no sooner they don’t need you they will leave you or that friendship could easily be replaced by someone else.

Diane lives in the United States. She is now retired. 
She says: Throughout my life, I've felt it was important to be my own person and not let stereotypes define who I was to become.   When I first started working, I ran scientific tests in a laboratory and then later decided to move into the field of IT and computing.  In both of these jobs, there were very few women so I felt motivated to do my best and show others (and myself) that I could have accomplishments equal to any other person. I found work to be rewarding and purposeful.    
The main purpose in my life, however, was to raise a kind, talented, and fun son.   He is an adult now and, although he lives some distance from me, is close to me in many ways.   I love my life and hope that I can encourage and help others love theirs as well

Saturday, 24 January 2015

If a girl is being bullied

By Bogdan, 29, Romania via UN Volunteers

I want to tell you that if you feel bullied, you probably are. Bullying can be emotional, mental or even physical but all types of bullying are serious and need to be dealt with as soon as possible. Is it at school, is it at work or is it even someone in your family? Maybe no one believes you but I believe you and I believe you will rise above bullying.

Bullies try to intimidate you, bring you down or force you to do what he or she wants, against your will. The hardest type of bullying to notice is the one that involves manipulation but the truth is anyone being bullied knows it deep within so there is hope that we can conquer all forms of bullying.

If you are experiencing bullying, the first thing you must do is realize that you do not deserve it. By believing that you should not be bullied by anyone no matter what will make it easier for you to strongly say no to it. 

Do not be afraid to say no or call out a bully for what they are doing.
If someone is bullying you, tell them that they are bullying you. Be confident and mention to their face that what they are doing is bullying. Walk away from any bullying. Giving in to the bully will only make them continue to bully you.

Get evidence of the bullying if you can, collecting this can offer proof later on if you have to bring it to the law. You should also rally support online or offline on your situation because you do not have to face it alone.  If the bullying is causing you emotional or physical problems, see a professional therapist.

Remember, a bully does not define you. Stand up for yourself even if no one else does. Never be afraid to report the bully. Be safe.


Bogdan offers busy people the opportunity to find free time and create a balance between their personal and professional lives. He does this by teaching productivity principles and techniques specific to their personality using experiential techniques. Visit his website

Saturday, 17 January 2015

If a girl wants to drop out of school

By Stela, 32, Bulgaria via UN Volunteers

In my life, I was taught that education is the key to success. That education is a precious gift that should not be wasted. That education will open my mind to things I could have never imagined. I am sure they told you the same.

What no one told us is that you will have to sit hours and hours in a lecture, you have to do homework, projects and thesis, that you will have to be early to class, that you have to sacrifice time and some of the things you love and most painful of all, accumulate student debt.

Is education really worth all that? My answer is yes. Yes, education is worth all that. Think of it this way, education gives us the opportunity to understand the world system we live in, education helps us interact with people in our society and education is needed to make the world move forward. You are what it takes to make the world move forward.

If you are thinking of quitting, ask yourself why. Is quitting beneficial to you in the long term, because believe me, education has long lasting benefits. Are you thinking of quitting because you do not like your school or maybe because everyone else is quitting, or do you want to quit so that you can marry or work on your career, maybe you can you no longer afford tuition, are you willing to work hard to get a scholarship?

To be honest, there are many reasons you can find to quit school but it is really up to you to stick it out until you graduate.  Life is about management, learn to manage your time and look around, there are many people who are balancing work and school. Education really never ends but it doesn’t take forever to get your certificate.

If you have already quit, do not feel shy to go back to school. With education, it is never too late. Treasure your education.


Stela Koleva is a Bulgarian living in the beautiful city of Prague (Czech Republic), where she moved to 7 years ago. Here she is working as manager of 3 international IT Professional Services teams in Concur – an American SaaS company.

Passionate about leading and developing people and high-performing teams, Stela is mentoring and coaching many of the young leaders in her organization and acting as a VP of Membership for the local Toastmasters club.

In her free time Stela is working on her masters degree in General Management from the IUBH School of Business and Management (Bonn, Germany) which she plans to complete in June, 2015. When Stela is not studying, she enjoys travelling, reading and participating in marathons.

Saturday, 10 January 2015

If a girl is pregnant (Teenage Pregnancy)

By Kamesha, 30, USA via UN Volunteers

Teenage pregnancy is a very challenging time for any girl who has had to experience it. Not only does teenage pregnancy put stress on a young body that is not ready for a child, it also causes emotional stress as well as adding difficult responsibilities to the youngster.

If you are below 21 and you discover that you are pregnant, the first thing to do is keep calm. Keeping calm can help reduce anxiety which may be harmful for you and your baby. Realize that there are now two people you will be responsible for, which include you and the baby you will have.

Abortion is an option to terminate the baby but this adds more stress to the body and can even prove fatal. It also carries heavy long term emotional consequences that you will have to face in your daily life. Keeping the baby may seem hard at first but knowledge is power. If you know you cannot keep the baby, there is always social services that can help you manage the baby or put it in a better home.

Now that you are pregnant, you might want to tell the father of the child about it. Also inform friends and family about it. Some people may be supportive whilst others may not be too positive about you having a baby so young but remember that this is your life and not theirs. In any case, make sure that the father of the child also accepts responsibility for the baby, but because you are the one carrying the child, the responsibility is mostly yours.

Read as much as possible about pregnancy to inform yourself on what to expect in each stage. By knowing what to expect, you will help yourself get rid of fear. Eat well and find happiness within yourself. It may seem hard but believe me that you will get through this. Learn from other young mothers, join a social group for young mothers and believe that things will be alright. 

Do not be afraid. Be safe.


Kamesha is a Chicago native. She  graduated from Eastern Illinois University. Kamesha is a  freelance writer. She and her husband, Calvin have 3 daughters, (Nalaya: 12yrs, Jael: 3yrs, and Callie: 2yrs). The family attends Corner Stone Christian center in Chicago Heights, IL. Kamesha believes in service, generosity, integrity, compassion, and honesty.

Saturday, 3 January 2015

If a girl has an online friend she has never met

By Amanda, 19, Philippines via UN Volunteers

WiFi. Ask the average urban person what they cannot spend a day without and they will certainly mention the internet. The rise of social media has also made the web experience more exciting. The world is becoming more a global village and now we can even talk to someone from oceans away in a matter of seconds. Thanks internet.

Social media has even opened doors to meeting people we would have never actually met in real life. And the way these networks work is that you can so easily connect with people with the same interests as you without having the social anxiety that could come if it happened in real life.

Speaking of real life, remember that the profiles you see online only show a certain perspective of a person. It is very difficult to judge a person character by how well they present their profile which is why I insist to refrain from getting overly involved with people you’ve never met.

The odds could be that the stranger you are chatting with is actually real, of course they are. It could be that the online personality is not exactly what they look or sound like in real life. It could even be a scammer out on a prowl or at its worst, a downright criminal.

Don’t worry. I know you want me to tell you that the cute guy or girl you have been chatting with for months is real. The truth is, I don’t know and neither will you unless you meet them. If you find yourself falling for someone you’ve never met, talk to a close friend or a trusted adult about it. Be ready to listen to their advice.

Have a skype call with the online personality so you can see what they really look like and even if you do that, remember that you can never really know someone till you meet them. And if you choose to meet someone from the internet, take someone with you always for at least three of those meetings until you are sure the person can be trusted.

Never feel intimidated to cut off an online contact if you start to have doubts. Better safe than sorry ey. Remember, the internet is a great resource, but you have to use it wisely. As a matter of fact, go out there and make some friends in real life, then you will have the best of both worlds. 


Amanda is currently an Organizational Communication student from De La Salle University. Usually found composing songs, reading, writing stories or blogging, she's a girl with a wide range and variety of emotions and a great passion for novelty. 

Her lifelong dream is to help make a change in the world, one small step at a time. Can be defined using tons of different opposing adjectives and thus, she calls herself "a paradox in motion." To know more about her quirkiness, check out

Thursday, 1 January 2015


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The If A Girl project is going to post one video every week of 2015 to answer some common questions that girls wonder about or just need to know of. If you are a guy, do not worry, the message is gender neutral and you can benefit from it too.

Visit our website or social media every Saturday for a new video. Like it, Tweet it or share. Contact Us, if you'd like to contribute.

Watch the videos below.

JANUARY (Week 1 - 5)

By Amanda, Philippines

By Kamesha, USA

By Stela, Bulgaria

By Vaida, Romania

By Diana, USA

FEBRUARY (Week 6 - 9)

By Aime, Canada

If a girl lives without human rights

By Prerna

If a girl wants to commit suicide

By Claudia, Ecuador & Brazil

If a girl witnesses a crime
By Jezile, Philippines

MARCH (Week 10 - 13)

If a girl is depressed

by Kreeta

If a girl has been abused

by Cathleen, Philippines

If a girl has a bad roommate

by Dr. Patricia, Australia

If a girl cannot find a job

by Rubeliza & Reina

APRIL (Week 14 - 17)

If a girl is Unhappy

By Hom Zurn

If a girl is unsure what to do with her life

By Sarah Kristine

If a girl is lonely

By April

If a girl is choosing a career

By Shalini

MAY (Week 18 - 22)

If a girl does not like herself

By Viona

If a girl has been cheated on

By Sarah

If a girl feels abused

By Dorothy

If a girl wants to be independent

By Mariia

If a girl wants to do cosmetic surgery

via St. George's International School, Cologne

June (Week 23 - 26)

If a girl is going to a party

By Faith

If a girls' daily safety tips (Short Film)

By Hadassah

If a girl cannot sleep

via St. George's International School, Cologne

If a girl has been blackmailed

via St. George's International School, Cologne

JULY (Week 27 - 32)

If a girl does not feel beautiful  - Anna's Story

By Valery

If a girl wants to go backpacking

By Bruna

If a girl has emotional problems

By Nour

If a girl is experiencing puberty

via St. George's International School UN Club

August (Week 33 - 36)

If a girl has a depressed friend

by Manan Modi

If A girl is choosing a role model

by Diana Brandl

If a girl has no confidence

by Machelle Johnson

If a girl is liked by an authority figure

by Alinne

If a girl has lost someone she loves

by Amanda

September (Week 37 - 40)

If a girl cannot fit in

Sarah Kristine

If a girl wants to abstain

by Florence

If a girl wants to have sex for the first time

by Ruchika

If a girl is in an abusive relationship

by Stela

October (Week 41 - 45)

If a girl is walking home alone

by Kamesha

If a girl self harms

by Bogdan

If a girl wants to be promoted at work

by Manan

If A Girl feels worthless

By Claudia

If a girl lives alone

By Myrto

November (Week 46 - 49)

If a girl has trust issues

by Amanda

If a girl is always jealous

By Viona

If a girl is being catcalled

By Bogdan

If a girl feels unsafe

By Cladia

December (Week 50 - 52)

If a girl is attacked

By Amy

If a girl wants a support group

By Sontia

If a girl wants to volunteer

By Hadassah

Thank you to all our volunteers for joining in our 'If A Girl' Campaign.

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