Saturday, 28 March 2015

If a girl can't find a job

By Rubeliza & Reina via UN Volunteers

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1,000 emails later and not one single reply. Is it me or is it them? Did I choose the wrong course to study? Why, but my friend got a job immediately. I need a job, any job, just take me. These are just some of the few thoughts that goes through the mind of anyone who has struggled with finding a job.

Unemployment is rising but there are still people getting jobs out there and we will too. But why does finding a job, a good job at that, have to be so difficult especially even if you are already qualified. I am not an employer so I can’t tell you that but as someone who has once been on the unemployment bench for a long time, I’ll tell you this.

There is a job out there for you, it doesn’t matter if you have to send 1,000 cover letters, resume’s and cvs to the wrong company, when you send to the right company for you, they will reply.  Do not in any case become desperate. It is easy to become desperate when you have a loan to pay but job recruiters can sense this.

Sending emails can be exhausting so try going personally to every company you like, dress smartly and ask to talk to the manager, then ask for a job and highlight your skills. Make your resume neat and easy to read, 2 page CV is advisable because HR get a lot of CVs, so make yours stand out.

Don’t be afraid to settle for an internship and stick it out. If you don’t get the job, you’ll at least get experience and a reference but never hang around an internship that wastes your time or money.  Join social meetups and attend business workshops too to increase your network.

Phew, who knew finding a job would be a full time job but you can make it. The key is never to give up, you may just be one email away from your dream job so keep sending.

Now let’s go get that job.

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About Reina
(According to Rubeliza)

Reina is a registered nurse. She graduated as a Cum Laude. She dedicated, more than 2 years working in a hospital as a Renal Nurse before pursuing other studies.

Aside from being smart and dedicated, she's a fun loving, family-centered and God fearing individual. What I like most about her is her ability to see happiness and contentment in every little thing that she does. She's quite outgoing and loves to be around people. For now, she's aiming to finish law studies, be the first lawyer in her family and make them all proud. 

Saturday, 21 March 2015

If a girl has a bad roommate

By Dr. Jenkings via UN Volunteers

Once in our life we may encounter that one roommate who we just don’t agree with. Whether  this disagreement is in secret or an open argument, there are some steps to take in order to avoid negative influence from a bad roommate.

Let’s define a bad roommate; there is no one true characteristic to detect one but the basic features of a bad roommate include a person who is unwilling to coexist peacefully in your living space or someone who is trying to negatively influence you and doesn’t contribute to your personal growth.
While a roommate is not a lifetime partner, their influence can affect our wellbeing during the time we spend with them.

The easiest way to notice a bad roommate is seeing the quality of life you are leading after they come into your life. Are you suddenly unhappy, irritable, have your grades gone down and is your relationship with others gone downhill? Then try to connect if any of this is as a result of your roommate.

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However, before pointing all the blame to your roommate, make sure that you are not negatively influencing their life either. Focus on building a positive environment.  Talk nicely to your roommate about the concerns you have and if they disregard you, ask the authorities or trusted persons to intervene.

Do not allow your roommate to negatively influence you but instead, make an effort to positively influence them. Having negative emotions toward your roommate will make it difficult for you to have a peace of mind and if they have negative emotions toward you, set clear boundaries on your interaction.

If your situation gets worse, try your best to get a new room. Be safe.

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About Dr. Patricia Jenkings

Dr Jenkings has worked as a Ministerial Policy Adviser and is a Life Member of The University of Sydney Australia Union and University Alumni.  She has successfully completed academic studies both nationally and internationally and her University honours and doctoral work centred on migrant settlers and women’s rights and empowerment. She has presented academic papers at national and international conferences, with works published locally and overseas. 

Dr Jenkings presented a paper at the Academic Council on the United Nations System in New York on the importance of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights highlighting the significance of women empowerment and women's rights. Dr Jenkings is also an active member of the UN Women Australia and continues to work towards creating a fairer and safer world.

Saturday, 14 March 2015

If a girl has a been abused

By Cathleen via UN Volunteers

Being abused is the most damaging thing that can happen to anyone. It steals your confidence, scars your mind and makes it hard to move on with life, it can even give trust issues and in worst cases mental disorders. Abuse is a bad thing and I am so sorry it happened to you.

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I believe you can overcome the abuse you have faced and defeat those monsters that torment you at night. The first thing you must know is that you did not deserve it, you do not deserve and never will you have deserved it.

Being abused is not your fault. The shame and guilt that comes with it is not yours to carry and should only be felt by that wicked person who hurt you. If you are still being abused, break that cycle today. Report your abuser, ask for help from trusted friends or an organization near you. You have to fight back to protect your body and soul from harm.

If you’ve just left an abusive relationship, I want to say well done. What you have done is a brave thing and no one but you can truly know what you went through but we are here for you. Don’t let any stigma stick to you but focus on rebuilding your life and finding happiness within you.

Abuse does not define you so do not let it control your life. Life can be beautiful. Seek the help of a counselor and therapist to help in your journey to recovery. Look in the mirror today and tell yourself that you are beautiful, not only because of what you look like but also because of the strength of your spirit. You are a survivor.

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Saturday, 7 March 2015

If a girl is depressed

By Kreeta via UN Volunteers

Depression,  we’ve all felt it some time in our life. Are you feeling depressed right now, have you been down for a long time? The first step to beating depression is admitting that you have it.

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You first feel sad, then you feel angry but that anger slowly drains your energy and now you don’t want to leave your bed, life has lost its meaning and you just can’t be happy. It is possible to smile and still be depressed, that doesn’t mean the problem isn’t serious.

Depression can lead to more serious consequences such as drug abuse, chronic sadness, suicidal thoughts, mental illness like bipolar, to name just a few.  You may also lose your job and friends. But if your friends leave when you are depressed, were they really friends at all?

The truth is, people deal with conflict differently. When you are depressed, everything seems to fall apart because a negative force such as depression attracts negative consequences.

When you feel depressed and don’t want to get out of bed or see anyone, Get up. No matter how hard it is, get out of that bed, take a refreshing bath, eat a balanced meal by yourself or with someone you love.

Do an activity you love, dance, draw, sit in the sun, watch the leaves fall, talk to a friend, be near loved ones or get a pet. If it is too much to bear, go and see a therapist immediately. Even so, understand that you are what it takes to beat depression. People can help but no one knows what’s deep within you.

In depression, you are your only hero and I believe, without a doubt, that you are worth saving.

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