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If a girl wants to have cosmetic surgery

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Experts have weighed in on what leads to and causes teens to turn to cosmetic surgery at a certain age. Are you considering it?

Is there something about your body you just wish you could change? What is it? Is your forehead too large, your lips too small, your nose too crooked – oh, your breasts are too flat and you call that a bum, I can’t even see it. To be honest, if you scrutinize every detail to find a fault, you will find a fault yet again, there is nothing imperfect. Who told you that a large forehead or a big nose is not the normal? And who said human ears are supposed to be flat?
The point is, there is no model for the perfect human, no measurements as to what a person should be or not. What we see every day to be perfect is what the media, society or our peers reinforce as human perfection but if you look closely, you will see that even those images are distorted by photoshop, lighting or manipulation of some sort. 
There are beautiful people yes, but they are just people. Re…

If a girl wants to be independent

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By Mariia via UN Volunteers







I will tell you some things you need to know about being an independent woman. First of all, independence is an individual choice. It is not forced but must be wanted. You must want independence enough to be willing to fight for it.
The benefit of true independence is that you get to rely on yourself for what you need. Believe me when I tell you that being independent goes beyond just having enough money to live by yourself, it means being free to make your own decision, feeling emotions without holding back, choosing what to believe in and how to believe it. Personal independence is a beautiful experience.
On your journey to being independent, remember that every choice has its consequences. To achieve independence you will have to work hard for yourself. Getting independent off other peoples backs is not true independence. You will also have to be responsible for yourself, when things work out you will take the praise but if things don’t work out be ready t…

If a girl feels abused

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By Dorothy via UN Volunteers







When you first think of abuse, what comes to mind? A woman with a black eye, a child that is being forced to work or sexual abuses such as rape. It is true, all this is abuse but there is so much more to abuse than what can be seen.
Most abuse happens in relationships and most abusers are people who are close to the victim. Abuse goes beyond battering, torture, forced labor or rape. Abuse also includes when you feel manipulated to stay in a relationship, abuse is when you are insulted, degraded and made to feel worthless. In short, abuse can be physical, emotional, mental or even spiritual.
A parent can abuse a child. A partner can abuse their spouse. A boss can abuse their worker and so on. This is to say, abuse can happen to anyone and can be done by anyone – never judge a person by looks, an abuser can look friendly to everyone but the victim always knows the truth.
Are you in an abusive relationship? Do you feel scared, emotionally scarred and worthless be…

If a girl has been cheated on

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By Sarah






When we are in a relationship with someone, we trust them not to hurt us. One of the biggest hurts that can come from a relationship is the pain we feel if we discover that our partner has cheated on us. The reason for this is we feel betrayal, every special moment looks like a lie and we start to wonder if it is our fault to be cheated on like that.

I have always believed that a relationship is two ways – it needs equal work from both people in it. If someone decides to cheat on you, they did the action, not you so the cheating is their responsibility and not yours.
If you find out your partner has cheated on you, it is okay to feel angry but don’t let your anger destroy you or lead you to destroy other things or people. Accept that you have been cheated on even if this is painful. Ask your partner for the real reason they chose to cheat. If a person cheats once, it is okay to give them a second chance but if a person cheats on you more than once, it is likely that they are a s…

If a girl doesnt like herself

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by Viona via UN Volunteers





Do you know what can make your life terrible every day? Living in a body that you do not like. I mean, you are stuck in your body for the rest of your life and no matter if you modify it, you can never exchange it. It is still your body and the emotions you feel beneath are going to be the same. 
Not liking the body you live in is equivalent to insulting yourself for a choice that you did not make.
Imagine this, none of us were there when the first human being existed and we don’t know what she or he looked like, so why would you let anyone tell you if your body is good enough or not. While the human features are basically the same with head, hands, feet, there is no detailed template on what a human should look like, so don’t let anyone tell you that your body is not the right fit. No, not even you.
Focus on being healthy physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally but mind you, health is not reflected by a number on the scale. Don’t starve yourself or dr…