Saturday, 31 October 2015

If a girl lives alone

By Myrto, SAFIGI Volunteer




Living alone can be a great experience and rewarding on so many levels. However, if you live alone, there are some steps you need to take to make sure that your environment is safe for you. The best step to take is to remove your home address from your online profile, website or even your CV. No one needs to know where you stay unless they are an active part of your life.

Another thing is to make sure that you live in a safe neighborhood where crime rate is low. In any case, it doesn’t hurt to install an alarm system, a surveillance camera outside your home and secure the doors and windows. Always lock your doors and windows if you are going out and build a healthy relationship with your neighbors if possible so that they can help you if you have some trouble.

Do not bring strangers into your phone by any means and if someone comes to your door asking to use your phone, do not let them in, instead direct them to a public payphone nearby or lend them your cellphone to use outside. The same goes for someone who knocks at your door asking to use your toilet, direct them to the nearest public toilet.

In fact, if you do not feel comfortable about opening the door if someone is knocking, don’t open at all, whether you know the person or not. Only bring trusted persons in. Keep a trusted person or loved one on speeddial and let them know that you could call them in case of an emergency. Build a network of friends who will be able to check on you to make sure that you are alright and be a good friend and check on others too.

Another thing is keep your living space clean at all times and make sure the food in your fridge is fresh and not expired. This will help you prevent all type of diseases. If you are planning to cook, be mindful and don’t neglect the food you are cooking to multi-task, this may cause you to forget and could lead to a fire. Switch off all appliances when you finish using not only to prevent fires but to all conserve energy. Make sure your heating system works well too.


Make the most out of living alone and make your home an atmosphere that you love and is refreshing to you. Be safe.



ABOUT MYRTO

I'm studying Journalism and Mass Media Communication and I'm very passionate about human rights and equality. I tend to think the best for most people I meet and I want to live in a world where we don't need to constantly be on guard and suspicious with others, a world where everyone has equal opportunities and rights and everyone is safe. "

Saturday, 24 October 2015

If a girl feels worthless

By Claudia via UN Volunteers



What really is the price of human life? I tell you that human life is precious. Your life is worth more than precious jewels or all the gold in the world. Do you know why? Because before you were born, you did not sign a contract to be made human. You were the only fertilized of a million others to be the human that you are.  You cannot even control your heart beat or the breath that fills your lungs this very minute.

You are the only person with your fingerprint and DNA in a world that has 7 Billion people and your life is supported by a huge ball of fire just far away and near enough for you to survive. In short you are a miracle! Everything on the earth is built to support your life.

Even after all this, it is still possible to feel worthless, unloved, a misfit and unwanted. The universe is working to support your life but it’s like the people around you do not care for you as much as the nature that is here to support your living.

In a world full of 7 Billion people, you feel alone and neglected, you don’t know why no one likes you or you’ve done some things in your past that now make you feel like you don’t even deserve to be alive. Sometimes you feel disgusted and angry at the person you turned out to be. If this describes you, I would like to tell you once more, you are worth more than precious jewels.

source: myvidaspa.wordpress.com

Never judge your worth by human standards, by what media, society or friends tell you. No one is perfect so don’t let anyone tell you that you are not enough! You may feel downcast maybe because of the way you look, where you are from, what you cannot afford, your ability to read or write well, a disability, you may be embarrassed of your family’s status, you are discriminated  or maybe  because you’ve been hearing a message of defeat and never hope your entire life.

When you feel worthless, take a deep breath, imagine the nearest tree and know that it is providing oxygen just for you to live. Then think of all the people who have made your life what it is, do not ignore simple moments and appreciate them. Love yourself in all your forms and start to build a positive self-image. There are people who won’t like you no matter what and there are people who will love you in any way, stick to those who love and build you.


Love yourself, accept your defeat as lessons and when you feel worthless, remember that you are one in billions. Make your life the magic you want it to be. Love yourself.


ABOUT CLAUDIA

Claudia is Ecuadorian and Brazilian and has a civil engineering degree. She says: I am a positive person even though I have had my ups and downs in life as everybody else. I believe that with a positive attitude and hard work we can overcome pretty much anything. In my relatively short life, 

I have learnt we should only be concerned with what we think of ourselves, we should make an effort to become a person we could be proud of. I am not even close to that but I work every day to be able to achieve it. I joined the UN volunteers about a month ago and I hope I can make a difference, however small it may be. If I make someone smile or help them in any way I would have accomplished my purpose.

Saturday, 17 October 2015

If a girl wants to be promoted at work

By Manan via UN Volunteers




Choosing and advancing a career of your choice is a right you should exercise. Once you get a job, you should have equal opportunity to be recognized and even be promoted.

If you are working towards being recognized or promoted at work, keep this in mind; know when you want to be promoted – set a goal towards that but make sure that your goal is realistic and that you have a good plan set to get this promotion.

To be promoted at your work, you have to be at least good at it so make sure you improve your craft and do your best at what you do. Doing other people’s work for them will not get you promoted so avoid it because it distracts you from doing your own work properly.

Once you are good at your work, talk to your boss or supervisor about your intention to be promoted, without putting any pressure on them. Tell them your goals, how you are working toward your goal and what you expect your promotion to be and when. Be sure to mention how much of a salary increase you expect and why you deserve the raise.

Do not threaten your boss or supervisor for a promotion and avoid blackmailing or using tactics unrelated to your work to get that promotion because it might backfire. Use your aim for a promotion to advance the company and your own work experience.
Source. www.arindamchattopadhyay.com

If you have a competitor for the promotion, it is okay to let them know that you are interested in that promotion too. This prevents any in-office conflict after the promotion has taken place because everyone would know your intention. If however, you do not get the promotion for whatsoever reason do not sulk and lose interest in your work instead focus on what caused you to lose the promotion and find a way to improve that.


If you feel you have been treated unfairly at your work, consider finding a job where you will be appreciated and allowed to grow. And most important of all, choose a career you love.




ABOUT MANAN

A current high school student, Manan Modi is a rising junior at John P. Stevens High School in Edison, New Jersey. Fascinated by technology from a young age, Manan has always sparked an interest in computers. In his middle school years, Manan originally made videos on YouTube about video games, but he never knew that his hobby could be applied in real-world situations. Over the years, he has honed his talent by learning programs such as Camtasia Studio, Sony Vegas, and Adobe Photoshop CS6. 

When given the opportunity to volunteer with both the SAFIGI Outreach Foundation and the United Nations, Manan was ecstatic to learn that he could contribute to the humanitarian cause by utilizing his video-editing skills. An advocate of women's rights, he hopes to further convey his message by continuing to work with SAFIGI. 

You can view Manan's portfolio here

Saturday, 10 October 2015

If a girl self harms

By Bogdan via UN Volunteers




Self harm is an issue that many teens deal with and most do it in secret. If you are a girl who self harms, this video is for you. I know, many people do not understand what self harm is or why anyone would do it. The answer is never simple.

Self harm is deliberate injury or poisoning your body but usually without the intention of suicide. Substance abuse and eating disorders are also a form of self harm. A person who is self harming usually knows what they are doing and the reason they are doing it.

The most common reasons for self harming is to cope with underlying issues such as stress, trauma, depression, emotional or sexual abuse and personality disorders among others. Self harm is used as an expression of the feelings inside, it is a channel to let out those emotions even if the method is harmful in itself. Consequences of self harm can be life threatening infections, mental disorders and addiction to name a few.

If you self harm, firstly do not judge yourself. Accept that this is an issue you have to deal with and make a plan on how to deal with it. Setting goals to reach a point where you do not harm yourself will help you not to relapse. Recognize the real issue causing you to self harm, you cannot stop self harming if you do not deal with this issue first.

A therapist or telling a trusted friend can help you on your journey. Don’t suffer alone, there are many people who are suffering from self harm so join a social group online or offline of people who have quit self harming, this is a way to get inspiration from others that you can really be free from self harm. Find new creative and non harmful ways to deal with stress, find a hobby, get a pet or practice meditation.

Source: The butterfly project.


There is a wrong belief that people who self harm are actually just seeking attention to themselves. This is not true but that doesn’t mean the problem they are dealing with should be ignored.


ABOUT BOGDAN

Bogdan offers busy people the opportunity to find free time and create a balance between their personal and professional lives. He does this by teaching productivity principles and techniques specific to their personality using experiential techniques. Visit his website www.vaidabogdan.com



Saturday, 3 October 2015

If a girl is walking home alone

By Kamesha via UN Volunteers





Walking alone can be refreshing, reflective and most times, necessary. Depending on where you live, walking alone is not a problem but it is always important to exercise caution especially if you are walking in lonely places, dangerous areas or at night.

By all means, avoid walking alone if it is not safe. Walking in a pair is helpful but walking in groups is much more effective. This also applies to taking taxi’s or public transport especially at night.

What you want to do when walking alone is to always be aware of your surroundings and what is going on around you. It is very difficult to be aware of your surrounding if you are listening to music, playing games on your phone or texting. Doing this takes your attention away and may make you miss important signs.

Make sure your phone is recharged and you have a close friend on speedial especially if you are walking at night. Talking on the phone with your friend or loved one, updating them on where you are can also be helpful.

Avoid using one routine path so change your routine as regularly as possible. This keeps anyone from observing your commute patterns and can increase your safety. If there is a short cut that is unsafe, by all means, avoid taking it. It is better to take the long route and arrive than take a shortcut and be hurt.


The most important thing of all is to trust your gut. If you feel that something is wrong, don’t ignore it. Follow your gut feeling even if it feels irrational, this could save your life. Be safe.


ABOUT KAMESHA

Kamesha is a Chicago native. She  graduated from Eastern Illinois University. Kamesha is a  freelance writer. She and her husband, Calvin have 3 daughters, (Nalaya: 12yrs, Jael: 3yrs, and Callie: 2yrs). The family attends Corner Stone Christian center in Chicago Heights, IL. Kamesha believes in service, generosity, integrity, compassion, and honesty.