Saturday, 24 January 2015

If a girl is being bullied

By Bogdan, 29, Romania via UN Volunteers

I want to tell you that if you feel bullied, you probably are. Bullying can be emotional, mental or even physical but all types of bullying are serious and need to be dealt with as soon as possible. Is it at school, is it at work or is it even someone in your family? Maybe no one believes you but I believe you and I believe you will rise above bullying.

Bullies try to intimidate you, bring you down or force you to do what he or she wants, against your will. The hardest type of bullying to notice is the one that involves manipulation but the truth is anyone being bullied knows it deep within so there is hope that we can conquer all forms of bullying.

If you are experiencing bullying, the first thing you must do is realize that you do not deserve it. By believing that you should not be bullied by anyone no matter what will make it easier for you to strongly say no to it. 

Do not be afraid to say no or call out a bully for what they are doing.
If someone is bullying you, tell them that they are bullying you. Be confident and mention to their face that what they are doing is bullying. Walk away from any bullying. Giving in to the bully will only make them continue to bully you.

Get evidence of the bullying if you can, collecting this can offer proof later on if you have to bring it to the law. You should also rally support online or offline on your situation because you do not have to face it alone.  If the bullying is causing you emotional or physical problems, see a professional therapist.

Remember, a bully does not define you. Stand up for yourself even if no one else does. Never be afraid to report the bully. Be safe.


Bogdan offers busy people the opportunity to find free time and create a balance between their personal and professional lives. He does this by teaching productivity principles and techniques specific to their personality using experiential techniques. Visit his website

Saturday, 17 January 2015

If a girl wants to drop out of school

By Stela, 32, Bulgaria via UN Volunteers

In my life, I was taught that education is the key to success. That education is a precious gift that should not be wasted. That education will open my mind to things I could have never imagined. I am sure they told you the same.

What no one told us is that you will have to sit hours and hours in a lecture, you have to do homework, projects and thesis, that you will have to be early to class, that you have to sacrifice time and some of the things you love and most painful of all, accumulate student debt.

Is education really worth all that? My answer is yes. Yes, education is worth all that. Think of it this way, education gives us the opportunity to understand the world system we live in, education helps us interact with people in our society and education is needed to make the world move forward. You are what it takes to make the world move forward.

If you are thinking of quitting, ask yourself why. Is quitting beneficial to you in the long term, because believe me, education has long lasting benefits. Are you thinking of quitting because you do not like your school or maybe because everyone else is quitting, or do you want to quit so that you can marry or work on your career, maybe you can you no longer afford tuition, are you willing to work hard to get a scholarship?

To be honest, there are many reasons you can find to quit school but it is really up to you to stick it out until you graduate.  Life is about management, learn to manage your time and look around, there are many people who are balancing work and school. Education really never ends but it doesn’t take forever to get your certificate.

If you have already quit, do not feel shy to go back to school. With education, it is never too late. Treasure your education.


Stela Koleva is a Bulgarian living in the beautiful city of Prague (Czech Republic), where she moved to 7 years ago. Here she is working as manager of 3 international IT Professional Services teams in Concur – an American SaaS company.

Passionate about leading and developing people and high-performing teams, Stela is mentoring and coaching many of the young leaders in her organization and acting as a VP of Membership for the local Toastmasters club.

In her free time Stela is working on her masters degree in General Management from the IUBH School of Business and Management (Bonn, Germany) which she plans to complete in June, 2015. When Stela is not studying, she enjoys travelling, reading and participating in marathons.

Saturday, 10 January 2015

If a girl is pregnant (Teenage Pregnancy)

By Kamesha, 30, USA via UN Volunteers

Teenage pregnancy is a very challenging time for any girl who has had to experience it. Not only does teenage pregnancy put stress on a young body that is not ready for a child, it also causes emotional stress as well as adding difficult responsibilities to the youngster.

If you are below 21 and you discover that you are pregnant, the first thing to do is keep calm. Keeping calm can help reduce anxiety which may be harmful for you and your baby. Realize that there are now two people you will be responsible for, which include you and the baby you will have.

Abortion is an option to terminate the baby but this adds more stress to the body and can even prove fatal. It also carries heavy long term emotional consequences that you will have to face in your daily life. Keeping the baby may seem hard at first but knowledge is power. If you know you cannot keep the baby, there is always social services that can help you manage the baby or put it in a better home.

Now that you are pregnant, you might want to tell the father of the child about it. Also inform friends and family about it. Some people may be supportive whilst others may not be too positive about you having a baby so young but remember that this is your life and not theirs. In any case, make sure that the father of the child also accepts responsibility for the baby, but because you are the one carrying the child, the responsibility is mostly yours.

Read as much as possible about pregnancy to inform yourself on what to expect in each stage. By knowing what to expect, you will help yourself get rid of fear. Eat well and find happiness within yourself. It may seem hard but believe me that you will get through this. Learn from other young mothers, join a social group for young mothers and believe that things will be alright. 

Do not be afraid. Be safe.


Kamesha is a Chicago native. She  graduated from Eastern Illinois University. Kamesha is a  freelance writer. She and her husband, Calvin have 3 daughters, (Nalaya: 12yrs, Jael: 3yrs, and Callie: 2yrs). The family attends Corner Stone Christian center in Chicago Heights, IL. Kamesha believes in service, generosity, integrity, compassion, and honesty.