Saturday, 1 August 2015

If a girl has a depressed friend

By Manan Modi via UN Volunteers

Is your friend depressed? Is your loved one's depression weighing you down? Are you thinking of breaking off a friendship because you cannot handle the negativity that comes with depression? And if one of your friends is depressed, are you capable of helping them? 

The thing with depression is that you cannot always tell by looking, so just because someone is smiling, does not mean that they are actually happy. 

As a friend, ask your friends from time to time if they are happy. If something was troubling them in the past, they may pretend that they have gotten over it but you must always check that they are actually okay and the best way to know is by asking, never assume.

Being a friend to someone who is depressed can be very difficult and they may actually hurt your feelings because of the state they are in. If you have a depressed friend, understand them and be there to listen to them, don’t think they are just looking for attention because most time the situation is more serious than it looks.

Help your friend to be better. Suggest a therapist for them and make sure that they take steps to becoming better. It may seem tricky to inform your friends relatives about your friends depression so make sure you know your friends relationship with his or her family before informing them. If your friend wants to keep their depression a secret, agree to do so only if they agree to seek professional help.

Do not gossip about your depressed friend, yes, talking behind their back is gossiping and the news might spread and get distorted. 

It is okay to let your depressed friend know what you have been saying about the situation to other people. Other than that, make your friend feel special when you can, remind them why you are their friend in the first place, their good qualities and the potential they can achieve.

Do not allow your depressed friend to make you depressed. If you start to feel low around them, take time out and unwind by doing the things you love. Don’t cut your friend off, instead just focus on yourself for a few until you are ok.

The best way you can be there for a depressed friend is just be there. Sometimes no words are needed, just be there. 

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About Manan

A current high school student, Manan Modi is a rising junior at John P. Stevens High School in Edison, New Jersey. Fascinated by technology from a young age, Manan has always sparked an interest in computers. In his middle school years, Manan originally made videos on YouTube about video games, but he never knew that his hobby could be applied in real-world situations. Over the years, he has honed his talent by learning programs such as Camtasia Studio, Sony Vegas, and Adobe Photoshop CS6. 

When given the opportunity to volunteer with both the SAFIGI Outreach Foundation and the United Nations, Manan was ecstatic to learn that he could contribute to the humanitarian cause by utilizing his video-editing skills. An advocate of women's rights, he hopes to further convey his message by continuing to work with SAFIGI. 

You can view Manan's portfolio here

Saturday, 25 July 2015

If a girl is experiencing puberty

Video done by Sasha via St. George International School, Cologne

Written by Mary Mwema,

As the girl turns 10, all over the world, her life is surely about to change.

Depending on where she lives, she will be treated differently but mostly, all girls will pass through the same thing. One thing is sure, life is life, whether you are born in the suburb of New York or in the jungle of Nepal, the needs are the same, expectations are also the same.

Girls, wherever you are, someone somewhere on this planet is going through what you are going through. The difference is how aware are you of yourself, your environment, your right, your duties, your future and the opportunities around you.

For sure by the time you are 11, 12 you know very little about what awaits you.
In these articles we are going to talk about what happens during puberty.


I am 10, 12, hurray! Happy birthday, What a wonderful day, the small girl is now almost a teenager.

Little did she know that major changes are about to happen.

To start with her body; She notices something is popping on her chest, woaaah!. Her friends too, they tease each other, maybe laugh about it, but for some it is devastating and they feel ashamed so they start to hide their growing chest. They put on heavy clothes to do so and can even withdraw from others especially if they are the first to develop breasts among their peers.

The good news is, all girls go through this and it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is the first most beautiful thing happening to you, that chest has to develop because in you there is a woman and a woman is precious. So be happy, love it.


Then comes the period, also known as menstruation! What is that word again? Have you ever heard of it before? Shhhh, it is top secret, only the big girls talk about my little girl, we are going to tell you what it is so that you don't freak out when it happens. Shall we all go through it then?

Yes, if you are a girl (woman) there is no other way to it. We are created to carry future generation inside of us before it is born.

For that they must be preparation, so we have in our womb a kind of oven, it is meant to carry a baby when we are old enough to support it.

Every month, you will experience a flow of blood coming out from your private part; it comes out without your help. For urine, you feel the pressure and can go to toilet but this one comes out by itself. A normal period lasts 3 to 7 days. For some you'll feel nauseous, weak, uncomfortable and in some cases even to the point of vomiting and stomach cramps. I admit it is no fun but it is just one of the amazing things a woman's body does.

Where is all that blood from? In easy word, as the womb is preparing to receive a baby, if there is no baby, the womb surface will die just as dead skin on our body and peels off. The cycle will continue until we reach menopause (age of not being able to have children) which is at about 45 50 years old.

What to do?

1. If you have a bigger person around preferably mother or sister, don't be shy to tell them.

2. Wear a pad or wool in your pants to avoid messing yourself. Change the sanitary wear once it is full. Dispose of it appropriately (it cannot be flushed).

3. Keep clean at all time, bath at least twice a day and change whenever you feel wet.

4. Be discrete, not everyone should notice that you are having your period by your countenance and your cleanliness.

5. check you bedding to be sure that they are not stained if yes, clean the spot right away.

6. Always check the bathroom, toilet to be sure you have left it clean for the next person.
The secret is to keep clean at all times. It will help you avoid infections, bad odor or embarrassment...

Before you know it, you'll be used to it. So don't feel sad.


The small girl’s skin is changing too, becoming smooth, but her face oh oh!, pimples. Disaster, my face, what do I do?

Don't worry my friend, they are not there to stay, they will disappear the same way they came, it is just a matter of time. Just find a simple soap which will not irritate your skin, avoid fatty foods and body lotion on your face. Use baby powder yourself and eventually, you will be fine.


Body shape, hum! The small girl is becoming a lady, The hips are becoming large, for some it happens earlier than others it doesn't matter, we are all getting there.

Now my dear, you have seen how many changes have happened to your body alone, but in all this, Emotions.

While the body is changing, the girl will experience a lot of emotional changes. She is now aware of the effect of her presence among other people. She wants to have particular friends and wants to know if she is loved, noticed and appreciated. This is a serious time where she has to gain her confidence. Love herself and avoid copying others. We are all beautiful though different. Just keep clean, be presentable, wear acceptably and don’t mind the teasers and bullies.

We wish you a very joyful and happy transition from childhood to adulthood. Knowledge is power.

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Mary Mwema is an entrepreneur, wife, motivational speaker and mother who has raised six children (five girls) and Secretary of SAFIGI Outreach Foundation. She uses her experience as a woman to empower girls and give sound counsel.

Saturday, 18 July 2015

If a girl is having emotional problems

By Nour Azhari  via  UN Volunteers

As you know we all have emotions. We can feel anger towards someone or some event that hurt us, happiness because of something good that happened, we sometimes feel  disgusted, disappointed,  stressed by something or even attracted by someone. Every day we experience so many of those emotions.

Since emotions are something that everyone experiences, how do you know if you  have an emotional problem? I will give you some tips

First of all it is important to understand that every choice a human makes is partly influenced by his emotions but the problem arises when your emotions completely take over your life and you are not anymore fully in control of your actions .

The first step in feeling better is to acknowledge that you have a problem.  Some signs of emotional instability include: mood shifts , feeling anxious suddenly for no rational reason. Also, if your emotions are so strong that they lead you to harm others around you or even yourself this could be a sign. 

Furthermore if you are depressed all the time and you feel you cannot do anything about it this should also be a warning sign for you .  In general it is when your emotions start ruling your life . This could be through depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, suicidal thoughts , schizophrenia etc..

Once you take full consciousness of your problem and truly decide to deal with it I promise you that the job is half done.


The second step is to try to find out what is the cause of your emotional problem. It might be some tragic event that affected you a lot, or it might be someone that hurt you on purpose or even by accident, and it also might be that you did not get the love and attention you needed.

After doing that, you should work on separating yourself from the cause of your problem. For example if someone is causing those emotions in you should do your best to become independent from that person.

The following step is to avoid blaming other people for your emotional problems. It might be the case that these people are responsible for your problems but the only thing you can do that will make you feel better is to work on yourself. Expecting certain actions or behaviors from other people will only bring you frustration and it does not provide a long term solution

To help you get better you should try to see a therapist or you could even attend support groups depending on the setting you are more comfortable with.

Finally, apart from the professional help you might need, there are some things you can work on alone that will help you lead a more emotionally stable life. Try to surround yourself by people who truly care about you. If you cannot find a good surrounding one way to compensate would be to make time for an activity that you really enjoy . 

Another thing you will definitely benefit from is to do things that positively impact others. This might seem surprising but doing that actually helps build your self esteem a lot.

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About Nour

Nour Azhari is a student in Biology. She is interested in Hospital Management, Neurology and Psychology.