Tuesday, 16 December 2014

Heartwarming Perspective of Autism

Hello, I am Mark* It is nice to meet you.

There is something you would like to get to know about me. I am a man with autism. I was diagnosed with the condition when I was very young but I do not consider it a hindrance to my personal development. Rather, I look at it more as an opportunity to get better everyday whatever career I should pursue. To be frank, I do not have one yet but I am still striving for it.

I live by the quote, "Don't judge me until you know me. Don't underestimate me until you challenge me. And don't talk about me until you've talked to me."

It means you have to step back as you look into my sincere and honest words I am putting into before making judgment. I do not care if anyone hates me for whatever I do. I do not expect everyone to understand my journey, I am just saying how I feel.

Being happy is a part of my personality and is associated with instilling and exuding confidence in yourself and others.

I will end this composition by sharing a poem on autism and two Namaste quotes. I hope your analytic and critical thinking skills will help you digest and understand behind its meaning. I have a poem to share with you. I hope you like it.

Painful Autism by Katie Kagan

This is our life, not yours
If you care, Please do not stare
When you laugh, we break in half,
We are real, we can feel,
We understand that,
We were not planned,
We are human, My mind spins,
Like pins, Because we don't speak well... We are seen as shy
I cry for my girlfriend and I,
We try so hard,
To deal with our God-given card, I want you to understand...
Our autism was not planned,
We have autism from but, We have worth.


Now I present you two Namaste quotes.

"On the mountains of truth, you can never climb in vain; either you will reach a point higher up today, or you will be training your powers so that you will be able to climb higher tomorrow."
                                                                       - Frederick Nietzsche -

"Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success."
                                                             - Swami Vivekananda -

This concludes my composition.

*name has been changed for privacy.

Next time you meet a person with Autism, look beyond their condition and see the challenges they have overcome, the strength they bear and the person that they are. Pass this beautiful message on.

Friday, 5 December 2014

A Girl Grows Up: Puberty

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As the girl turns 10, all over the world, her life is surely about to change. Depending on where she lives, she will be treated differently but mostly, all girls will pass trough the same thing. One thing is sure, life is life, whether you are born in the suburb of New York or in the jungle of Nepal. The needs life are the same, expectations are also the same.

Girls, wherever you are, someone somewhere on this planet is going trough what you are going through. The difference is how aware are you of yourself, your environment, your right, your duties, your future and the opportunities around you.

For sure by the time you are 11, 12 you know very little about what awaits you.
In these article we are going to talk about what happens during puberty.

The Changes You will Notice at Puberty


I am 10, 12, hurray! Happy birthday, What a wonderful day, the small girl is now almost a teenager. Little did she know that major changes are about to happen. To start with her body; she notices something popping on her chest, woaaah. Her friends too, they tease each other, maybe laugh about it, but for some it is devastating and they feel ashamed so they start to hide their growing chest. They put on heavy clothes to do so and can even withdraw from others especially if they are the first to develop breasts among their peers.

The good news is, all girls go through this and it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is the first most beautiful thing happening to you, that chest has to develop because in you there is a woman and a woman is precious. So be happy, love it.


Then comes the period, also known as menstruation! What is that word again? Have you ever heard of it before? Shhhh, it is top secret, only the big girls talk about it...no my little girl, we are going to tell you what it is so that you don't freak out when it happens. Shall we all go through it then? 

Yes, if you are a girl  (woman) there is no other way to it. We are created to carry future generation inside of us before it is born. For that they must be preparation, so we have in our womb a kind of oven, it is meant to carry a baby when we are old enough to support it. 

Every month, you will experience a flow of blood coming out from your private part, it comes out without your help. For urine, you feel the pressure and can go to toilet but this one comes out by itself. A normal period lasts 3 to 7 days. For some you'll feel nauseous, weak, uncomfortable and in some cases even to the point of vomiting and stomach cramps . I admit it is no fun but it is just one of the amazing things a woman's body does. 

Where is all that blood from? In easy word, as the womb is preparing to receive a baby, if there is no baby, the womb surface will die just as dead skin on our body and peels of. The cycle will continue until we reach menopause (age of not being able to have children) which is at about 45 - 50 years old.

What do you do  when it happens?

1. If you have a bigger person around preferably mother or sister, don't be shy to tell them.

2. Wear a pad or wool in your pants to avoid messing yourself. Change the sanitary wear once it is full. Dispose off appropriately (it cannot be flushed).

3. Keep clean at all time, bath at least  twice a day and change whenever you feel wet.

4. Be discrete, not everyone should notice that you are having your period by your countenance and your cleanliness.

5. check you bedding to be sure that they are not stained if yes, clean the spot right away.

6. Always check the bathroom,toilet to be sure you have left it clean for the next person.

The secret is to keep clean at all times. It will help you avoid infections, bad odor or embarrassment...

Before you know it, you'll be used to it. So don't feel sad.


The small girls skin, is changing too, becoming smooth, but her face oh oh, pimples. Disaster, my face, what do I do?

Don't worry my friend, they are not there to stay, they will disappear the same way they came, it is just a matter of time. Just find a simple soap which will not irritate your skin, avoid fatty foods and body lotion on your face. Use baby powder yourself and eventually, you will be fine.


Body shape, hum!  The small girl is becoming a lady, The hips are becoming large, for some it happens earlier than others. Doesn't matter, we are all getting there.

Now my dear, you have seen how many changes have happened to your body alone, but in all this, do not forget to let your mind and soul grow with you. Keep reading, keep learning, keep knowing and keep applying, spread the good news.

This article was written by Mary Mwema.

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Mary Mwema is an entrepreneur, wife, mother who has raised six (five girls) and Secretary of SAFIGI Outreach Foundation. She uses her experience as a woman to empower girls and give sound counsel.

Friday, 21 November 2014

5 Way to Avoid Drug Addictions

This post was written by Stefani via UN Volunteers

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Women are often known to stress in their regular daily misunderstandings and unpleasant situations. After all it is in our nature to differ from men, coming from genetic predispositions to different way of thinking. 

As a consequence, others imagine that because of this we are a weak gender, who are subjected to various addictions coming from alcohol, drugs, pills and many others.

The truth of the matter is, every human being, whether male or female, faces challenges everyday and we may all sometimes give in to the temptation of taking a few drugs.

In this post I would like to give You some advice and help You on how to avoid getting stuck in the huge aquarium of drugs.

1.  Avoid Emotional Instability - The crucial thing is to avoid emotional instability. A lack of self-confidence can lead to emotionally instability. A person who does not have enough confidence, even though their world be objectively perfect, they may not be able to realize the good in their environment and circumstances under which they living. This can lead the person to be often elusive, misunderstood, lost in translation and cut out from society because of they see the world from a different angle. 

If you are that kind of person, try acknowledging the good things around you and make a point to appreciate everything that goes right and not only focusing on the wrong. Pay attention to real values and give them a purpose. It sounds difficult, but it is worth  a try.

2.  Take it Easy – Life is the way it is, full of ups and downs, which means that you are always going to face some disappointments one time or another. Often the things that can draw you to use drugs are some circumstances that are very hard to handle. It can be that you lost someone close to you, that you lost your job, that you got divorced, that you got a serious disease or you have gone through bankruptcy or are even depressed. There are of course many other things that may bring us towards the edge where we see drugs as our only solution. 

As we cannot change the life as it is, we have to take it easy and accept the things as they are. You also have to realize that those bad things are not happening only to you, but thousands of others are going through the same things as well, so hang in there because the bad won't last forever. 

3.  Avoid Bonding with a Drug User – We all know a famous quote: “You can tell who a man is by his company.” What it actually means is that you are most likely to become similar to the person with whom you are spending your time. It does not mean that you are instantly going to be a drug user if you are friends with one, but after a while you can start to accept this behavior as norm. In more serious cases you can also fall in love with a drug user, which will bring you towards two different options. One of them is to become one, because you love that person so you will assimilate. The other option is to make a huge effort trying to bring him out of this world which is very hard and stressful and also the success is not guaranteed. 

At the end better safe than sorry. So I would suggest you to take care with whom you are spending your time.

4.      Be Careful – My mother used to say to me at least thousands to times: “Be careful what you drink, someone can easily put something in it.” I always though she was overprotective and that could never happen to me. However, it can happen, it happens all the time. It happened once to a very close friend of mine. She was careful, but clearly not enough. She was in a bad company and someone put something in her drink which did not end well. She was in a rehab for a long time, because of everything that happened that night, but she is now fortunately good again. I have to say that she got out of it successfully, but you should never even come to the same situation. 

So I’m suggesting you to be careful, because that person can always be you.

5.      Don’t even Try it – Usually youngsters between 15 and 20 years of age encounter some social habits which are considered to be “trendy” of “cool.” It is not uncommon for youngsters to try drugs for the first time just to be accepted as “cool” enough. That first try is usually not just first try, but it can become your daily routine later and it is usually hard to get out of it. 

My advice to you is not to be curious at all regarding drugs, because trust me you are not missing anything. Life is beautiful as it is, and you do not need a miracle ingredient to make it better. Be yourself, because drugs can only make you “cool” for a short period of time and miserable for possibly the rest of your life. 

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This post was written by Stefani Marjanovic

About Author

Stefani Marjanovic, 24, lives in a small town in Bosnia and Herzegovina. She has studied International Law at the American University in Bosnia and this year is starting her Masters in Human Rights and Environmental Protection.

Stefani Marjanovic

IN HER OWN WORDS: " I lived outside my country few years, I also went on several exchange programs so I could say I’m very intercultural. I have seen many things, sometimes good, sometimes disappointing but it was after all a big lesson to learn. Thanks to a free summer and good will, I decided to be part of this amazing blog and to help and teach young women how to fight, how to grow, how to enrich themselves and become what they always dreamed of. I always wanted to help and was always eager about justice so I think I am exactly where I am supposed to be."